if me and my boyfriend get into a fight he is always the one making up. he makes it his fault. he will never tell me whats going on, why he is mad, and what i do wrong. is every guy like this? i have had other boyfriends they just werent very good boyfriends so i dont know if this is a bad quality. how can i help him tell me? will he ever tell me whats wrong?
2006-06-12 09:56:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Making it his fault is only a good quality if it's actually his fault.
If he has something he would like to see you improve on, he should tell you.
2006-06-12 09:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by scruffy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on whether or not you mind. Since you're asking this question, my guess is that it does bother you. Well, look at it this way: your bf must love you a lot to sacrifice himself in every argument. Most people (not just guys) tend to by selfish by nature (not that there is anything necessarily wrong with that). But it takes a lot of guts to admit you're wrong, even when you're not. Your bf certainly has a hard-to-find quality that a lot of people would appreciate and find attractive. However, it's not a very pragmatic way to approach a relationship. It can easily turn into a way of sweeping things under the rug. Maybe you're bf just doesn't like conflict and he's accepting fault just to end it. I think it would be best if you were both honest with each other.
2006-06-12 17:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone tell you that guys naturally don't share their feelings. Anyone who says that is still learning about what they are talking about. Anyways, NO, all guys are not like that.If it bothers you , you should think about whether you and he are compatable or combatable....of course compatable is the better of the two if you want happiness. I think what you are describing is a signal that you may need to rethink you relationship choice.
2006-06-12 17:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by brad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my ex..lets just say the relationship didn't go very far..comunication is VERY significant in order for a successful relationship. I suggest you try to talk to him about this but don't go off on him...if this continues like this I would think that you will be very frustrated with him and the relationship will be done. so try talking to him.
2006-06-12 17:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is repressing on all cylinders. It is a form of dishonesty - well-meant, but fundamentally dishonest.
But remember the story of Bluebeard. If he is hiding his real feelings, there may be a very good reason.
Be careful.
2006-06-12 17:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that he will explain himself, we guys are lousy at emotional stuff. We get better as we age, but if he is still young, teen ager or so, don't count on any good explanation. You will just have to guess the best you can.
2006-06-12 17:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to make you happy, just ask him what's wrong good communication is very important in a relationship
2006-06-12 17:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys just naturally don't like to share their feelings. there is nothin wrong with him that is how most guys are especially since they usually feel like it is their fualt any way
2006-06-12 17:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by Gimli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you pressure the truth out from him. just be careful baby girl, you won't like what you about to hear.
2006-06-12 16:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky Lady. We hope to be like him!
2006-06-12 17:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by AEZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋