ok, two weeks ago i dumped my bf because I don't really like him and i don't want to hurt his feelings cuz' he's a really nice guy, so now the problem is I'm getting jealous with this girl cuz' my ex. likes her, so i talk to his best friend and he said that he's only doing that because he wants to make me jealous because he still likes me, Is it normal for me to get jealous even though I'm the one who dumped him???or am i starting to like him?
2006-06-12 09:36:31 · 20 answers · asked by party_gurl_24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is normal. To some degree we all consider the person we were with as our property so to speak. When someone else moves in on what was yours you automatically wonder if you have lost something more important than what you thought it was. Stick to your original feelings about him and just let it go.
2006-06-12 09:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are feeling rejection! Even though, you broke this off, and don't really like him, your personnel ego is inflamed. Mentally he was suppose to pine for you. He should not of moved on yet. But since he did, you feel rejected, even though your not. The best way to get someone back, is to find someone else to make them jealous. Just keep telling yourself "I don't really like him, he wasn't for me." If you don't and get back with him you will probably only be doing it to see if you can still control his affection toward you. Its nothing more than another ego thing. So spare the guy, and remember, way down deep, he is not over you yet. Its the oldest trick in the book. Go forward!!!
2006-06-12 11:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same feeling over somebody I could care less about. Stick to your feelings of I don't really like him. Not the feelings that nobody else should care for him too. Don't be in high school where they play silly games, such as making somebody jealous just because. Learn to be above that and move on yourself. For real.
2006-06-12 09:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by ht_butterfly27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you do like him or you wouldn't be getting jealous over him. When you're in a relationship there are going to be things about your partner that you may not like or that may be different from your norm. That's okay. You have to identify your issue and find a "happy median". It sounds like you found something you didn't like about your ex, and let the relationship go. Don't give up so easily. If you're having doubts about your break up, try to see if you can ease your way back. It sounds like you'll have a good shot at it.
2006-06-12 09:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by Whonosbest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the reason you dumped him, still goes. What you are feeling envy. It happens all the time, we often want what we can't have. You still feel a bit possessive of the ex b/f.
Seems he read you well, and is using that knowledge to rile you up.
Get over it, and move on as you planned. It's just a mind game, and they only work, if you let them work.
2006-06-12 09:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a matter of ego. You dumped him for whatever reason you had. Now you see that somebody else likes him and want him back, the reason that made you dumped him are strong enough?, are u having second thoughts?.
If you can stand to see him with anybody else, but still will never go back with him, think about this he's going to move on with his life and he's gonna date someone else,. But if in the other hand you want to go back with him, then hurry up before someone else do it first!
Good luck!
2006-06-12 09:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by freakyfaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r such a bit.... cuz when the guy was in ur hands u let him go ,when he like another now u know that u have to ask for forgiveness & take care of him to not lose him again ,who can be lucky like u bit......... at last u find ur true love don't miss it
have a nice life with him PLS. as a new friend I wanna know the result ON( medhat_ataturk@yahoo.com) I hope u 'll spend good time with him & I'll be sad if it not true
2006-06-12 09:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by ANUBIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling jealous in anyway I would suspect that there are feelings that still remain. Or maybe you are feeling challenged and compaired now with someone else. Only your heart can lead you in the right direction. Good Luck
2006-06-12 09:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by roseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I guess it is normal........When I dumped my boyfriend after 10 months he started hanging out with this girl I don't like(hate). Yes of coures i got Jealous. So dont feel bad!
2006-06-12 09:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Vannah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww that stinks.
well in my opinion the jealousy is sort of a longing that you have. if you've dated this guy for a while or had some strong feelings for him at one point, you probably havent completely gotten 100% over him yet. it all takes time, even if you still dumped him, you'll probalby still feel sort of possessive because he used to be yours.
sort of like if you gave your favorite childhood doll to your little cousin or something, and you were watching her play with it, you might feel a little bit of longing because of reminiscing of the good times you used to have.
but dont worry chica, you'll definitely get over it as time goes by. you'll probably meet another guy who completely takes your breath away and this jealousy? it'll go out the window. :)
best of luck!
2006-06-12 09:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋