Okay, so I'm dating this guy & we're getting pretty serious. Even talking about long-term. He's a wonderful guy & treats me like I'm a princess. So, what's the problem? It's is soon to be ex wife who calls him constantly for help. She cannot do anything - ANYTING - on her own, and he goes running EVERY time she calls. He says he feels sorry for her because she's not independent like me, so he keeps helping her. I tell him that she's not a child and she needs to learn to handle life on her own. For example, she needed to call an electrician out for an electrical problem - HE had to handle it. She can't pick up the phone and make a phone call? HOW do I handle this - I am NOT the needy type and she is driving me nuts. I find myself getting irritated at him for being her support when in my opinion; he needs to let her LEARN to make it on her own? HOW do I handle this, do I swallow it and not say anything? I'm just not used to needy and weak and she TOTALLY is both...it makes me nuts...HELP
2006-06-12 09:10:44 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like bad news. Does he know you're getting irritated? If he does and he still keeps the way he's going he isn't respecting you and your feelings. If he doesn't know, then tell him and sit down to work out a plan so you don't feel irritated and he doesn't have to feel so guilty. But it sounds awfully suspicious, how soon is she to be his EX???? I'd be very guarded.
Good luck,
Mariah
2006-06-12 09:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mariah 3 · 12⤊ 2⤋
Guess what? He LIKES being needed or else he wouldn't continue to help her. If I were you (and I'm not) don't plan on anything changing anytime soon. Even if they DO divorce she will still call on him because she knows she can count on him and he will still help her because she needs him. I would move on unless you want to deal with this the rest of your life.
2006-06-12 09:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your bf that there is two people in a relationship, not three and you cant take her calling him to do stuff that she could call other people to do for her. Tell him that he needs to cut her loose or you will cut him loose.
2006-06-12 09:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋