when time out does not work.?

Question

I have a 5 year old and a 3 year old how can I displine them?I have tried time out and even spamkind but neather has worked have any ideas?

Answer 1

Count from 10 to 1 in an increasingly agitated voice. It always worked for me. Once in a blue moon someone (one of the five) defied me enough to get to zero and then I followed thru with a smack on the rear.

Answer 2

Time outs do not work. They only cause resentment and are shaming to a child. Time outs are a way for you to control your child but not a way for a child to learn self-control. They are a punishment not a discipline.

Try and use logical consequences whenever possible. Taking away a toy or privileges when your children misbehave is not a logical consequence. Taking away a toy if your child throws it or is destructive with it is logical. These are some other examples of logical consequences. If they make a mess, they clean it. If they break a toy, it goes in the trash. If they fight, they can't play together until they are ready to play gently. If they damage something in the home, money comes out of their piggy bank or they earn money doing things around the house to pay for the damages. Let the type of discipline you use fit the crime.

Another technique you can try when your children are misbehaving is this. As soon as one misbehaves, get down to their level and say "I don't like when you (explain what and why)." Take the child gently by the hand and put them in a spot in your home (bedroom, the couch.) Say "When you're ready to (listen, stop, behave) then you can come back with me." This is not a time out because you are not giving a time limit (you controlling them). You child returns when they are ready to control themselves. You may have to take your child back to the spot a few times before they get the message. Thank your child when they behave. Keep it up!

Find ways to help your child learn to express themselves instead of lashing out. Say things like "I can tell that you are (upset, angry, mad, hurt, frustrated). What can we do about that?"

Notice them when they are not misbehaving. Say things like "You worked on that for a long time! Look how high you can climb! You used so many colors on that picture!" These are intrinsic motivators rather than extrinsic rewards ("Good job," stickers, candy). These phrases are great confidence builders.

Set limits, follow through, and offer choices, not chances. "No" should mean "No" the first time you say it. Say "Yes" as much as possible. Be patient and consistent. Good luck!

Answer 3

i would try puting them on the step or couch so that they know that they did somthing wrong and have the 5 year old set there for 5 mins and the 3 sit for 3 and if they dont lision and get up then the time starts over and tell then why they are siting thin the spot they are and then come back and ask them if they know what they did wrong if they say what they did then let them up if not them tell them u will be back when they knwo what they did it works for some kids

Answer 4

Always follow through on punishment. Make them lay down for a nap or take away toys or privleges. The minute you give in they are in control again.

Answer 5

Just be firm and don't let them get away with ANY behavior you don't want. It may seem like you are going to lose your mind, but keep being consistant, and if you feel they need spanked, go for it! It helps when you talk to them to get to their eye level, and tell them EXACTLY what you expect, and EXACTLY what is unacceptable. The key is consistancy.
Good luck.

Answer 6

take away the candy & everything else sweet..That's supposed to be spanked-???-especially in the morning time & at dinner time. You have to put your foot down, really put your foot down
& tell your kids stop your being very bad. No husband? - Role
Model is you until kids are grown & on their own.Good luck & have a nice day!

Answer 7

tried spanking doesn't work so now i learn to reason out with my 4+ year old gal and for 2 year old boy i look into his eyes and say No and told him the reason....
Sometimes they just want attention
Be patient

Answer 8

Call Supernanny! Fast!

Answer 9

try taking away there favorite things until they learn to listen and behave. If they can't listen they can't play with there favorite toy. Worked on my son, good luck

Answer 10

i have 3 kids and i know how u feel.. spank ur kids wont work trust me.. make sure to take their favor toys away from them it will teach them not to do it again after they get better then return their toy back to them .. they will learn and also if not work then make sure take their hobby that they have spend time with just let them know that they in trouble and it will teach them i promise u .. it worked on my kids..