My husband and I are having problems. He left for a week and made us lose our house we live in. We have a little boy and another on on the way. So we came to another state to start over and we are staying with my parents. He said he needed to go back to the other state to get some money he was owed for remodling a bathroom. He said he would be back in 2 days. He only took one outfit. Well now that he is up there, he has no money and he has to make some before he can come back. My little boy askes for his daddy all the time. When the phone rings he runs to it and says its daddy when its not. One morning he woke up and pointed to a picture hanging up of his dad and said daddy and I told him daddy had to go bye bye but he will be back. So he gives me a kiss and hopps off the couch and puts his slippers on and waves and says bye bye and goes to the door. I asked him where he was going and he said get daddy. My husband says he is coming back but what should I say to my little boy?
2006-06-12 08:48:21 · 11 answers · asked by Joy Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just let him talk to his dad on the phone about anything. There's not much you can do. Tell him daddy's at work for a little while. You're not lieing, he does have to work to get some money to come back. Oh, and did you ever think that your husband is lieing to you? Ya'll are having problems and he did leave before, have you thought that maybe he isn't comming back? You have to face reality, he might have found someone else. I know that's not something you're ready to think about, with a son and a child on the way, but some men are azzholes. It might be hard, but you have to do what is best for your children. A: You can sit at home all day and you and your child do nothing to move on with you life waiting on your man. or B: You can get up and do something. I know you're pregnat so maybe right now you're not able to get a job, but you can still take you son to the park, or swiming, or any activity. Something to keep his mind off his daddy gone for so long. And if your husband does come back, then everythings great, if he doesn't come back, then you've already started on taking his mind off of his dad, and you have built a good relationship with your child. And remember, what ever you're feeling with your emotions you're unborn baby can feel them too.
2006-06-12 09:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do the best you can. It sounds like you already have control of the situation. If you can let him call his dad as often as you are able to. That might help a little bit. Also try getting his mind off of it even just temporarily. Talk to him about the new baby or get him to some kind of program for kids his age. At least it will occupy his mind for a short time. Hopefully you won't have to wait to long to get him back home but either way at least he has you and it sounds like you are doing the right thing.
2006-06-12 08:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by ghostlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth, there is problems with daddy, and that you your self don't know when he is coming back.
I would think he left you. If he wanted to get back he could have asked your parents for help or his parents, or friends or anything. He is taking his time coming back for a reason, maybe he has a girlfriend, I feel for you and the kids. Some men take longer to grow up than others, you and your children will suffer because of it. You can make up your mind and deside how long you will suffer. I would file for devorce because he abandon you. Think about it. You need to fix your life with or without your husband. Next time he calls have a real talk with him about real problems.
Good luck.
2006-06-12 08:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband to write him a letter and send a picture and a small gift- it really doesn't have to be so serious to the child -"daddy's working out of town - when he gets back we'll all go on a pic-nic" let your son draw him a picture and put the letter in the mail himself i hope it all works out for you - just have as much fun as you can with him - he'll be OK give him the letters his daddy write to him and let him carry them around or the picture make it fun tell your husband to get a phone card and call at a certain time or day every week kids like routine and you can mark the calender and cross off the days until the call comes in i wish you all good luck and good fortune .................
2006-06-12 09:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by paynesgray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of father would not call to at least talk to their son and wife, regardless of the money situation?? For your son's sake all you can do is continue to tell him his daddy will hopefully be home soon but if I were you I would be making your husband aware that if he doesn't get home or at least talk to your son then you're no longer going to lie to your son and will assume he has no interest in his child and file for abandonment. This may sound harsh but he has no excuse for his actions.
2006-06-12 08:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be taping this for your hubby! That poor little boy misses him and he doesnt care! What a jerkoff! You cant do anything other than tell him daddy will be back soon. Unfortuneately this happens a lot and they never come back. Sounds like a deadbeat to me.
2006-06-12 08:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do, considering the child is so young, is to continue saying the things you have to him. Let's hope dad gets back in a hurry, for your child's sake.
2006-06-12 08:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he dad will soon be home, and try to get in contact with your husband and tell him to atleast call home so he could talk to his child.
2006-06-12 08:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his father loves him and will hopefully be home soon. Don't do it for you or the dad... do it for the kid.
2006-06-12 08:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by sincityq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UNTILL YOU KNOW OTHERWISE, ALL YOU CAN DO IS TO RE-ENFORCE TO YOUR SON THAT DADDY WILL BE HOME SOON.
2006-06-12 09:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋