I am almost 16 and have 0 freedom. I can't say anything to get them to losen up, i've tried anything. They spoil me so that i wont ask to do stuff. They are all like You want everything, we do so much for you. All i really want i freedom but there is no way to get it. Can someone tell me if you feel the same and what did you do?
2006-06-12 08:45:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, welcome to the real world. I feel like I am on lock-down as you put it b/c I am 51 years old, have had to go back to work full-time after raising my kids, just when I'd LOVE to settle down and be able to put my feet up and rest. Why? So I can afford to send said kids to college, to help with their room and board, their vehicles and insurance, to pay for our house, to have health insurance so that if something happens to me they won't have to interrupt their lives to take care of me.
They didn't ask to be born, I brought them into this world. I made a good life for them, and gave them a great start to it. All I asked in return was that they respect themselves and value themselves and try to do their best to be successful. Not for me, but for the best lives they ultimately can have. I have supported them and stood behind them the whole way. Sometimes this meant I had to discipline them & not let them do whatever they felt like b/c kids don't always know what is truly best for them. Being a good parent means that sometimes you aren't going to win any popularity contests, but at least your beloved child will still be alive and well to glare at you with hatred.LOL.
Anyway, my point is, that the lockdown and bondage is a real fact of life. It is a function of taking responsibility for your own actions and it is a result of caring about more than just the present moment. If you care about the future, and you care about those who love you, it creates a real and definite responsibility that has an actual weight to it.
You can still have fun. Just don't hurt yourself or anyone who loves you doing so.
2006-06-12 08:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This just tells me that you have good parents, they love you and want whats best for you. You cant see it right now, but they are doing what parents are supposed to do. All of these kids that have all of the freedoms that they want have shitty parents that dont really care. You should be grateful that your parents are like that. Someday you will be very thankful. Give them a hug and thank them for just being your parents. They love you more than you will ever know!
2006-06-12 15:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you hate it now, but they are keeping you away from evils that could ruin your future. Just enjoy being spoiled and when you turn 18, you will have your freedom, and you will be a well brought up person and will go somewhere in life because of it.
2006-06-12 15:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by allknowing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We grew up in a strict household, too. It took us to reach 18 or so to know why the parents held us so tightly - to protect us from all the dangerous things out there (drugs, alcoholism, underage sex, eating disorders, gangs, drive-bys, etc.).
We did not like it at all when we were teens, but realize now that it really was an act of love on the part of our parents.
2006-06-12 15:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what that feels like.........When I was 16, I couldn't even go to the movies, because my mom said that: "She knows what goes on at the movies".........But I'm older now, and I see that your mom is only doing that because she cares about you. She doesn't want you: going out having sex, getting pregnant, doing drugs, etc. Even if you're a responsible teen........It doesn't matter.....She still worries about you
2006-06-12 16:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Spongebob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost 16? Your still a little kid. Do what your told and be glad your parents care about you..
2006-06-12 15:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a parent...so i understand where they are coming from...and although you may not understand now you will when you are older...they will loosen up eventually...prove yourself to be a responsible adult and it will happen sooner than you think...after all you are only 16
2006-06-12 15:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by countrygirlcansurvive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly what is it you want to do that your parents wont let you do?
2006-06-12 15:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to bad its for your own good
2006-06-12 15:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋