my 8 yr old is constantly trying my patience, and I don't have a lot of them anyway. wot can I do?

Answer 1

Thats what 8 year olds do. I have one that will be 8 next month, he drives me nuts, but he is learning every second of every day. Just make sure he/she stays respectful, and keep yourself from abusing because you lose your temper. Get counseling if necessary.

Answer 2

What ever you do remember that this is an 8 yr old. There is no need to become overly stressed. You weren't very specific on what the child does to get on your nerves so consider this... the next time your child starts doing whatever it is that you don't like make the choice to not get frustrated. Often children know that they are getting to you and have an aim for it. ( For example maybe the child knows that if he/she aggravates you enough he/ she will get what he/she wants. So,THINK about what the child is doing in that moment. Ask why the child is behaving in this way. If the child is having issues this is the time that you will find out. Most likely the child wants to get something out of the behavior and thus will say I am angry or whatever. Make the decision to do what is necessary. If the kid just needs some help resolving something, help. If he/she needs discpiline then do it. Always remember to follow through with whatever you say you are going to do. If you don't then the behavior will worsen. Again this is an 8yr old child. You are in control and that is because you know what is best for the child and also because the child can only learn what he/she must and must not be doing from you, the parent.

Answer 3

Just remember that he is 8. I also have an 8 year old son and they are VERY TRYING. But I have gotten involved with a few things and it seems to be helping. He is in cub scouts and they are a great way to get them to pay attention and be respectful. Just make sure you take time away for yourself just as a breather. If you think he is getting out of control you could always have him evaluated. Maybe there is something else going on that you don't know about. I think the more active you get him the better things will be. Just stay calm and things will work out. After all..ALL kids have boundaries that they like to test and when they fail they learn.

Answer 4

I am going to tell you the oppisite from most of the answers that I have seen here. I was a nanny for 9 years. I also have a little brother that is 13 years my jr.
Try this, if you can, it is not easy!!! Next time that her is driving you crazy stop and thing, he is just trying to get your attention. So give it to him. Take a deep breath, and DO NOT let him get control of your emotions. Tell him that you understand that he is really needing your attention and see if you can discuss the situation like you would with another adult. I used to ask my kids (that I nannyed for) I thing that you are really needing my attention right now, would you like to sit down and talk about whats going on here. I really think that if you can just talk to him things might inprove. You need to tell him who you feel and let him tell you how he feels. He may surprise you. He just may need you to talk to.
If you say something negative you need to back it up with something positive. He can not feel like you are attacking him. Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

Try approaching his behaviour in a different way, praise and award him when he's being good. And give him warnings first when he's being bad. Try changing his routine, maybe he's just bored. Try letting him choose what to do after school once a week. Give him incentives to behave.
This won't be easy but his behaviour may improve given time.
Good luck and don't give up. Remember he is just a child, what's the easiest way can he get attention? by pushing you to your limits of course. xx

Answer 6

Go to a family counsler that deals with behivorial in children and mothers who don't have patience. They may be able to help both.

Answer 7

Kids go through different stages of testing their boundaries. Now is not the time to laugh it off or chalk it up to them just being a kid. Now is the time to SET the boundaries. Dictate to them what is acceptable and what is not and back bad behavior up with punishement and give acceptable behavior praise...

Answer 8

I remember when my daughter was 8 years old..vaguely...since i don't have much information to go on....either answer her question.....then move on...or find out from a book or another mom in the same situation as you...then sometimes you just have to walk away...if the person keeps "whying" you to death!

Answer 9

You have to keep it, never let him see you sweat. Your the adult, how you react to him pushing you is how he will learn to react when he's older and someone tests his patience. cool off time for yourself, explain to him how you fell and why. Only use "I" statements never "you" statements. exp: I felt sad when you did respect me by........because I thought you......." Dont say Look at what you did or Yo made me...Keep trying, always express your feelings and don't forget every kid needs consequences that are STUCK TOO. At his develpomental age he is gonna push, don't let him defeat you...You are the adult he is not one your level, though he thinks he is.

Answer 10

have patience in reprimanding him/her, perhaps try to direct him/her to a positive source instead of a negative one, try to take away the the negative attention most kids seek, by providing some attention -again, if you can in a positive way.