basically i bin txting my mates girl behind his back but hav'ent sed anything too extreme and i got caught in the process. understandably he feels insecure as we have been friends for around 6 or 7 years. he is now giving me the silent treatment and i have txt him around 30 times trying to apologize and explain i havent physically touched her. the worst of it all is that me n 7 other lads are due to go away in august, the lad i p*issed off included.
He has told a work mate that he will talk to me in his own time and out of work. just hope we can eat humble pie at the end of it all because i regret it so much . any advice on the situation anybody ?
2006-06-12 08:19:52 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It doesn't sound like he should be eating the humble pie. But you should offer up a HUGE slice of it for yourself.
Just don't push whatever you do, and be sincere about your apology. Be willing to work for him to trust you again, it won't happen overnight...
2006-06-12 08:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't have been txting your friends girl to start with. How would you have felt if he'd done that to you? I understand that nothing happened but you still broke his trust in you. You may have lost a good friend over this but you have also learned a valuable lesson. Let him know as I'm sure you have that you know you were wrong & it will never happen again & you will give him his space until he works through things for himself. That's what you have to do. Give him time. He may come around but then again he may not. You must've had hidden feelings for this woman or else it wouldn't have been a secret. You crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. He may be waiting to see if you realize that & if he thinks he can ever trust you again. Just chalk this up as a lesson learned. A good friend is hard to find. Do unto others as you would have done unto you. True friends are rare. I do wish you the best of luck with this.
2006-06-26 04:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ya,
love 2 me I would not worry about the situation if you have not done anything 2 extreme. The thing is also his girlfriend can really be that fathful either if she was textin u as you cant be all 2 blame. I belive if she can do that behind his back she can do all sorts. Your mate will soon see sence (hopefuly) and realise that friends come before girlfriends well it int worth spoiling a friendship other a girl is it ( if I mite say so my self I am one lol)
2006-06-22 04:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Klaire_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may need to just let him be for right now. You kind of overstepped his boundaries and showed a huge lack of respect. Regardless if he is a true friend then he will come around eventually. Just make sure he knows that you are truly sorry for what you did and leave it at that. If you keep pushing at him he may just decided it isn't worth being your friend. If things haven't changed by the time you go on your trip than maybe when you do go it will be a good place to start rebuilding. If not then you will need to leave it as a learned experience and move on.
2006-06-12 08:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by ghostlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not let this situation bother me. Move on, man. So you have known the guys girlfriend for a long time. For one thing, you need to ask yourself why have I been txting my friends chick. Yes, she's your friend, but, she has a boyfriend. Can you respect that??? It sounds to me like you are trying to get something going on with her behind her boyfriends back. If I was you I would drop the whole thing and move on with my life. Your the one who messed up but if he does not want to accept your apology, forget it and leave the chic alone. Don't bother her anymore. Leave both of them alone, man.
It looks to me like you are sticking your nose in somebody else's business. Think about all of this that I am telling you. I am a wise old man that has lived for millions of years and I know right from wrong. Move on man there are other chics out there.
2006-06-23 04:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really sorry or just ashamed you got caught?
lf you've been friends for 6-7 years ,then you guys must know each other pretty well and have probably done this kind of thing before.
You don't seem to understand the gravity of the charge you've made against yourself.And your friend may share your values.
So take heart,he will get over it.Maybe this will open his eyes and make him realise that this girl means something to him.
2006-06-12 08:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by Emma Woodhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can be said? You've betrayed someone that you call a friend, irrespective of what you text to her. Frankly, I'm sure that nothing short of an azz-whipping is gonna make him feel better because he knows he can't trust you.
All I can suggest is that you have to let it go until he's ready to address it. And you need to show him that you can be trusted in your actions.
If the issue hasn't been resolved before you go on holiday, you should apologize to him in front of the group your mates. If he doesn't accept it, at least you've made the effort.
2006-06-12 08:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by chairman_of_the_bored_04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about stop texing him and cl him on the phone. Even if he refuses to answer your calls, leave him a voice msg telling him how much the relationship that you two shares mean to you. Also, let him know that although you should probably win an Oscar for "Jerk of the Year", that you regret what you did to the 10th power. Also, please allow him his space to cool off and probably feel things out. Remember, he didn't violate your trust in him you violated his in you; remember patience is a virtue, and hopefully his maturity will match your courage. It takes a great deal of courage and humility to admit that you were wrong, and to want to take responsibility for your actions. Feel like beating yourself up? Do it with a feather, and next time don't piss on your friends and try to convince them that its rain....Best wishes
2006-06-22 18:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as nothing intimate has happened, then when your friend is ready to have it out with you, at least you can be confident of this. However, it seems a little unfair on your friend that this has happened behind his back, he may well say some things that sound out of order to you but just ride with it, like I say, if nothing intimate has happened then your concience is clear. So if he is angry at the moment just allow him to off load some steam, his suspicions are aroused so he now needs time to settle down again, in his own heart.
2006-06-12 08:41:19 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee my heart bleeds for you -- NOT.
You disrespected your friend. So what if you didn't "touch" her - that's not the point and you know it. Grow up, Peter Pan. And you're disrespecting him again because you want him to talk to you when you want him to, and not, as he indicated to a third party, when he's ready to. Leave him be. Some friend you are. He has no faith in you, you have betrayed his trust. Don't you get it? All you sound is mad that you got caught. Gee, I'd drop you in a heartbeat too.
2006-06-23 07:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋