I love him to death. But it's almost obsessive. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7-months and thisis becoming a problem. He thinks my son hates him. I think it's just a phase.
2006-06-12 07:32:02 · 7 answers · asked by Kelly M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is a phrase they go through let you boyfriend hold him from time to time and see how he acts with him or with other family members.
LC
2006-06-18 20:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by littlebit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this age they want to be close to their mommy and your bf should understand this. He will eventually venture more out on his own, but it may take him a while to warm up to other people. He knows he can trust you and it will just take him time. Explain to your bf that he does like him but he may be shy with other people.
I read this from an babycenter.com....
"Does it seem as if one minute your toddler is a shrinking violet clinging to your leg, and the next he's eagerly toddling toward the swing set without a backward glance? Those are classic examples of the push and pull you'll see your child go through on the road to independence. The best thing you can do is accept that sometimes he'll act needy and other times he'll ignore you. Give him the space he needs to explore (provided it's safe), but stay close by in case he wants to run back to you for an occasional hug of reassurance. Let your child's temperament be your guide, too: A cautious tot may need extra time to warm up to a new group of children, while you may need to closely supervise a spirited child so his exuberance doesn't overwhelm his playmates."
I hope this helps! :) have a great day!
2006-06-12 14:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Bride2Be 8/30/08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's one year old! Attachment to a parent is characteristic of a one year old. It sounds as though you are a single mom. That makes things a little more difficult, as in the early months of life, children form attachments with their parents. Nature very cleverly designed it that way. If you introduce someone into his life who is not a permanent part of his life, but wanders in and out and only sees the boy once in a while, the child is not going to become attached to that person. Incidently, one year olds don't 'hate' anyone. They aren't that well developed yet. They may mistrust strangers, and hide behind their mothers, or refuse to go with someone they don't know. I think the problem is with your boyfriend, not your son. If your boyfriend is ever to become anything more, ie, if you plan to get married, he should start working on his social skills and find out a little more about the developmental stages of children and infants.
2006-06-12 14:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear good mom,
Your baby is a part of you, it is natural for a child to be attached to his mom. You are the first person that they see when they come into the world. You take care of your baby very well, he is supposed to be this way. My advice to you and your boyfriend.
First get the baby involved with spending time with you and your boyfriend.
Second once you have given the baby a chance to feel comfortable with you spending time with him and your boyfriend.
He won't feel so threatened when your boyfriend comes around.
Third babies only relax when they feel love and attention from the people around them.
Once you get the baby use to your boyfriend try to incorporate activities where you can show the baby that it is o.k. for mommy to be around other people without him becoming upset.
In order for this to work, you have to be consistent. If you begin to be around other people or if you begin to date someone else. You have to slowly let the baby learn this person to. If you don't be consistent the baby will always be upset because he doesn't understand why this person is around mommy, he only knows that he wants to be near you all the time.
That's normal with babies. The baby will eventually grow out of this but your gonna have to show him your world slowly.
2006-06-12 15:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a phase, They go through this for a lil while, then it goes away, unless you leave him a lot with a babysitter. He might think when your bf is around you are going to leave him again with someone. He might not like him due to that. Or he might just love you and want to always be with you. A lot of kids are like that.
2006-06-12 14:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. a friend of mine has a daughter the exact same way... except that my friend picks her up CONSTANTLY and as soon as she cries, the little girl gets picked up. If she leaves herdaughter with anyone she kinds makes a production out of it so that the baby sees that she is leaving because she in a way WANTS her to be upset that she is leaving. You need to start leaving yours on witha babysitter, you need to start maybe having some friends over for him.. he needs to be around more people to get more adjusted to not ALWAYS having to be around you.
2006-06-12 14:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by moomoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave your son with family and friends and with your boyfriend so they can bond. you baby your child too much and all he knows is mom, get him to know other people. this works trust me i know
2006-06-12 14:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋