2006-06-12 07:05:33 · 33 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no.. its none of his business... the only thing you need to divulge is if you have a sexually transmitted disease... that every one has a right to know.. any one that asks this questions has ulterior motives.. its not an innocent question- ever. the only thing that comes from telling your partner how many partners you had / what they were like etc etc... is for giving the person ammunition to judge you, and throw it in your face at some point in the future... leave the past in the past... where it belongs...
2006-06-12 07:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it really his business? If things have gotten to that point then I think honesty is the best answer. You don't want him to catch you in a lie later. Then how would he trust you? This past weekend, I had to own up to something that when originally discussed, I told the truth. Since then, things changed, but I did not want to be caught in a "lie" later. Although the truth did hurt some I love, I would much rather he know what happened, (and that originally it was not a lie) rather then find out later and think that it was.
2006-06-12 07:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the relationship you have and where that relationship is heading. I'm not advocating dishonesty, but sometimes I think people overshare too early in relationships, which can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings. Personally, if I was just mildly dating a woman, there's no way I'd ask a question like that. Not because I don't want to know (although it seems like a pointless question in some ways) but because that's her business. I have my own business, and I don't like being asked questions about my past unless the relationship can handle complete, unrevised honesty.
I mean, if you're into him in a real and serious way, you owe it to him to be honest. But if it's just idle dating, or you're just getting to know him, I'd tell him flat out that that's not really his business at this time.
Think of the trust required in relationships. And if it's not something you're willing to talk about, then he needs to respect that aspect of your past because 1. it's yours. and 2. it's the past.
2006-06-12 07:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by SnowFlats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, it is none of his business. If you tell the truth, he'll hold it over you for the rest of your relationship. If you lie, you have to remember the lie (actually the better of the two choices). It is really none of his business. What happened before you and he met is past history. If a guy asked me, I'd ask,"Why is that important to you?" or "Why would you need to know?" If you know the answers to those questions, you'd know why he asked.....
2006-06-12 07:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no, don't tell him the truth. Guys ask that question, but I don't really think they can handle the truth. He will hold it against you, and throw it in your face at some point in your relationship. DON'T DO IT!!!!! Tell him none of his business, or lie and say he's only the third! I use to tell every guy that!! lol...
2006-06-12 07:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a decision to be an honest person or to lie in order to spare their feelings. Remember that the truth often has a way of coming out, and if your boy finds out later that you lied, he may not be happy.
2006-06-12 07:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is none of their business how many people you have been with. Personally, I do not allow people I am dating to talk about past relationships because they did not work out. Second, do you know how many people they have been with? Third, why does it matter?
Just know this--you can be honest but do you want to talk about sex with the person you are having sex with? No
2006-06-12 07:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by evasive_eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh no ..I wouldn't answer at all tha kind of qusetion is none of anyones business.I would tell him nicely that is an aweful question you wont answer that. I have only been asked that once. I used the same reply and i never heard anything about it again.Those kind of questions are just trouble.
2006-06-12 07:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by shortpplrule01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you but i should tell you that whatever number you tell him, a guy usually will add about 4 to that number. Most guys think that women will say less than they have really been with. That is why they add to the number.
2006-06-12 07:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Namcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its none of their business. But I lie about how many people I've been with. Some of them were so bad and had to not count them
2006-06-12 07:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋