4 days ago, i found out my girlfriend was cheating on me. it hurts more than anything i have ever felt..how long will it feel like this, and what is the best way to stop the pain?
2006-06-12 07:03:25 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time heals all wounds.
It takes a different amount of time for each person so I cannot give you a time frame.
You need to surround yourself with friends, get out of the house and do things so you don't get depressed, keep busy.
Breaking up causes you to grieve just as if you lost a best friend or as if someone died. The pain is the same.
You will eventually move on and one day you will look back and it won't hurt (as bad).
My best advice is stay busy, stay away from her and things that remind you of her....this way you can heal and move on.
Take time off for yourself, do not rebound (aka date someone else to fill the void, until you heal).
I dunno if this will be of any solice to you but Buddah says;
Everything is as it should be.
That has brought me comfort...I hope it helps you too.
Think of it this way, at least you found out...it'd be much worse if she came home and gave you a disease...Plus she's not worthy of you so it's best you find out now so that you can move on.
Don't drink or do drugs because that's just running from your problem. The best thing to do is to grieve and move on hon. This is the healthiest method. If you run from your problems they will catch up with you later. Not to mention that you might form a nasty habit in the mean time.
2006-06-12 07:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no timeline of when things will stop hurting. I was actually talking about this the other day with a friend who has been hurting for over a year. The best way to get over someone is to make yourself busy. Do not jump into another relationship you are not ready within 4 days.
2006-06-12 07:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by evasive_eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way to tell how long it will last, but it will last until you let go. The best way to do it is to forgive her. Forgive her because people make mistakes and it will make you fee better. But, just because you forgive her doesn't mean you have to stay together. She's probably not the right person for you and eventually, you'll find the right person and realize that if you had stayed with her, you're life would be different and you probably wouldn't have found the right person. I'm sorry for you.
2006-06-12 07:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by yLime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say "time heals all wounds". I don't know who "they" are, but I doubt they ever went thru anything like this!
Your best bet is to start thinking of anything your girlfriend did that bugged you. Did she snort when she laughed? Did she pick her nose? Think of stuff like this so you start thinking of her in less of a positive light.
And then look at it this way - she was a practice run for the "real deal" - the permanent relationship. Tell yourself that you can (and WILL) do better!!
Good luck! I know it sucks right now, but onwards and upwards!
2006-06-12 07:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can really give you a time frame for when it's going to stop hurting. it all depends really how much you liked her. so i would say twice as long as you've been together. the only way you can make it stop is by being occupied i mean keep yourself busy with stuff to do. a busy mind doesn't think only does. sorry to hear you got caught up in some bad female.
2006-06-12 07:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll hurt for a long time, but time will heal.....just try to stay away from her and have no further contact with her. i was in a 5 yr. relationship and it ended abruptly and i didn't speak to him for a least a year....and it hurt really bad. i'm sorry ur havin to go thru this but 1 way to help heal is to hang with friends and family. try to stay as busy as possible for a while. find a hobby (building model cars, photography, etc.). and don't rush to find a new girlfriend (rebound) or u'll hurt that girl like ur girl hurt u. good luck!
2006-06-12 07:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by sunniskies4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just went through a similar thing and it was about a month ago. It still hurts but you have to get over it. Don't let it control everything you do. Hang out with friends and stay busy. In a week or two you'll be fine. sorry to hear about it.
2006-06-12 07:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by prof56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be to realilize that she did something very wrong, and that it wasn't your fault things didn't work out. She chose to cheat on you insted of telling you that she wasn't happy. The best way to stop the pain would be to confront her, ask her what made her act this way. Ask her why she cheated on you insted of telling you. Also telling her you've moved on and that there is no place for her in your life anymore should help too
2006-06-12 07:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on you. It may take a long time to heal. It may take only a moment to realize you deserve someone that will respect your heart. There is no set time for a broken heart to heal. I am sure you will survive the pain. Good Luck to you, and I am sure when you find love again it will be with someone that deserves you.
2006-06-12 07:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by skynickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time my friend - Time. Found out in College that my girl back home was having an affair with a married man in our church. Gag.
Hang in there. Time may not heal all wounds, but it will help.
PS-Try and stay busy.
2006-06-12 07:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by NYman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋