just tell me why
please
2006-06-12 07:02:01 · 20 answers · asked by vikalka2000 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
thre is only 3 people on this earth i trust
2006-06-12 07:07:18 · update #1
oh yes like i will let them ride my bike
2006-06-12 07:08:16 · update #2
i do have real fri9ens and only one of them is girl
2006-06-12 07:08:57 · update #3
Because they may have an agenda and if you are an open and honest person then they may use this to their advantage - like always thinking that you'll be there no matter how bad they treat you. This type of relationship is a form of bullying and people like that drain your energy and drag you down to such an extent it can seem that all you want to do is please them and forget about your own needs. DONT let this happen. Ultimately you will get madder and reach a point where you will snap because you know in yourself they are bad for you and that you are worth more. When and IF you reach the snapping point, you will look like a fool and the so called "friend" will sit back and tell the world that they were nice to you and this is how you repay them & if you try and defend yourself - very few will listen, making you bitter. I have recently been through this crap and have just broken away from someone who was draining every bit of me and making me doubt my sanity at times. Surround yourself with folk who respect you and WANT to spend time with you without agendas and lies. Be around folk who GIVE YOU something back as true friendship is a two way thing and so valuable if you can find and keep it. Tell whoever is doing this to you to F**K off in no uncertain terms - Hope that helps xxxx
2006-06-12 07:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with clairejoolz78 and wellardinc also. I have lots of acquaintances but I can count on one hand the number of my true friends. True friendship takes time to develop, and eventually a bond is built between you which you will both feel. This particular friend will always be there for you when you need him or her the most. You don't need these so-called 'friends'. Just remain pleasant with them, they're the 'aquaintances' and not very nice ones at that. Good luck :o)
2006-06-12 20:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people 'collect' friends. It's an ego or insecurity thing, but they don't have time to maintain the relationship, those that require the most effort 'drop off'. These days people want hassle-free aquaintances, and only have one or two true and real friends who they would treat/consider to be 'family' which i guess is what you're looking for.
The world is not going to change. Relax, lower your expectations, keep your problems to yourself, be nice to everyone you meet and sooner or later a true friend will emerge.
2006-06-13 02:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by trebs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you will find that out of the people you know there are only going to be 2 or 3 you truly 'connect' with. Other people are just good for general chit-chat but don't trust them with your intimate secrets.
2006-06-12 14:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by LONDONER © 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who only pretend to be your friend are not worth having as friends at all! its better to have one or two genuine friends than a big crowd of fakes. look out for people who have the same likes and interests as you and dont give yourself up to people you meet to easily. try and be a good listener and remember that there are some nasty people out there but they are often insecure and shallow because they dont know any better. good luck finding a good friend, it may take time but it will be worth it when you find one that is genuine and loyal and you will as you seem to be sensitive and caring. all the best
2006-06-12 16:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by wellardinc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you are confusing friends with acquaintances.
Friends are always there for you & care about you, acquaintances hang out with you when theres nothing better cos you're better than nothing.
You shouldn't feel insulted by this everyone has people like this in their life it's just recognising the difference that takes time
2006-06-12 14:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to me over and over again too. I feel that these so called friends are lonely and depressed. To me, anyway, it seems as if I have friends of convienience....they are only friends with me when it's convienient for them.
Are you active in your church? If so, it's a great place to meet people. I now have several people that I can talk to and that I trust, since we met in a respectable place.
2006-06-12 14:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they just like you and its not an intense friendship you have. Sometimes you like someone, but arent involved enough or even too scared to "care".
How about how you treat them, have you ever thought about that? They could be reflecting how you act around them.
2006-06-12 14:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by dyingpanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you must have someone they want or access to it. Also try choosing friends wisely not everyone can be a friend. Some can be acquaintances and other can be your friend.
2006-06-12 14:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by gentlgodis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately even friends can let us down. Have you talked to them?
2006-06-12 14:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋