I really like him but i am not ready to have sex.He says if i really love him I'll do it.I really want to wait till I'm married to have sex ao i won't have to risk getting pregnant young(I'm only 14). What should i do?
2006-06-12 06:48:56 · 55 answers · asked by georgiagurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If HE really loved YOU, he wouldn't pressure you to prove your love.
In fact, he's prove HIS love for YOU by dropping the issue.
2006-06-12 06:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he'd take no for an answer and be willing to wait.
If he is pressuring you and making you uncomfortable I suggest to you that he might not be the right guy. The right guy would love you and would make you comfortable - not make you feel bad about it.
I know that right now this guy is very important to you and your entire world revolves around him. Love at 14 is a glorious feeling and it's great you have someone to share things with. When adults tell you that it's not really serious or it won't last - it's easy to get your back up against the wall and be offended. But people say that for a reason - because we can all think back to when we were 14 and we thought we understood it all and looking back we now know that we didn't really know or understand all the things we thought we did.
The fact you say you want to wait for marriage and you are concerned about getting pregnant shows that you are a very wise young girl. The fact you are asking this question shows that you really do understand there are serious consequences to this decision.
My advice is to truly follow your heart - not the part of your heart that is telling you how great this guy is - but rather the part of your heart that is telling you that this is a big decision and it doesn't feel right - not right now. Once you do have sex, that part of your heart that said this wasn't a good idea will nag at you for the rest of your life. The right time is when that part of your heart that was nagging at you, actually turns around and screams YES! This was the right thing to do!
I think you are going to do the right thing and I think you are going to grow up to be a very beautiful special young girl and the guy that marries you will be the luckies guy in the world.
If this means that the guy you are with right now gets mad and breaks up with you, it's okay to be hurt and have a really good cry. but then, look in the mirror and point out to yourself that isn't it great that you didn't end up spending the rest of your life with this jerk!!! Or maybe he'll suprise everyone and turn out to be great and understanding and stop pressuring you. I have no idea what he will do, but don't feel like you have to give in just because he feeds you some disgusting line about proving your love for him. Your first priority is to love yourself and the decisions you make.
2006-06-12 07:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't think you are ready to then don't! Your virginity is something that you can never get back from anyone! And if this guy that you like really loved you, then he wouldn't even try to pressure you into it. When you think about it, he's probably not the one you are going to marry....and once hes got it, he'll want you to give him more. Once you do it just one time, they think they can have it all the time. Don't stress about it....use your head! I would definantly wait. 14 is too young to be doing that anywayz, right! Your virginity is a very prescious thing. Treat it as such and don't let him change your mind. Be Tough...Stand your Ground!
2006-06-12 06:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him NO and that if he really loves you and respects you, he will stop pressuring you to have sex. If he keeps pressuring you, break up with him. No matter how much you think he is great, he doesn't really love you if he won't take no for an answer; he's just concerned with getting some, and that's just selfish. At 14, you really aren't ready for the emotional aspects of sex yet.
2006-06-12 06:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by Georgia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to pressure you into doing anything you are uncomfortable with. And any little boy who tells you that you would do it if you really loved him, is an immature child just looking to get lucky. Hold your ground and do NOT give in. Break up with the loser and tell him why! At 14 you are just too young for that kind of pressure and responsibility.
2006-06-12 06:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want sex, don't seek love in a man. Men have a different wireing in their brain. Women are very different.
Young girls who never had sex will get pregnant on their first time bc of the women cycle. When you ovulate, 2 weeks before your menstrual cycle, your body creates an egg . Your body is designed to want to have a sperm impregnate the egg. The blood coming out is the egg dat was not impregnated.
You are 14. Why are you thinking about marriage. What about being 14 instead of shouldering the full responsibility of being a mom. Be a kid. I am still a kid and I am 41. I am still a kid bc I choose to never have kids. I have 68 cousins.
Guys don't like condoms, it restrics their feeling. Guys are like born sex machine and you will never change dat.
Guys seek love thru their sperms. Girls seek love thru their heart. Beware of the male specie. Sex will always be an issue.
why do you have to be married to have sex. Most married couple rarely have sex. You don't want to get pregnant, don't get drunk when you ovulate. You don't want to get pregnant, watch your cycle and use birth control or teach him to release outside of you.
Sex is a union between a man and a woman. Men feel complete when they have sex. Did you know dat sex can be one of the most beautiful dance between 2 partners.
Be wise with your body. It is your only one. You have one chance in life. Make the best out of it. Marry when you are in your forties, why not
Only women give birth. Men donate their sperms. Women are one step more evolved than Men.
Lapis Lazuli
2006-06-12 07:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lapis Lazuli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man, this guy sounds like every other guy with no play. Be different and stick to your guns. Save yourself and dont give in to the everyday pressures. Itll be worth it. Youre gonna have a lot of guys do that. If you said yes to everyone, youd be a slugbag and wore out by the time youre 17. Tell him hes getting on your nerves. That crap would turn me off by him quick.
2006-06-12 06:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 14 so your under the age of consent...If you are not ready tell this guy...If HE really Loves YOU then he will wait...don't feel pressured...This guy could get arrested if he forces you to have sex and charged with rape...Please don't do anything you don't want to...You are free to make your own choices so wait until you are ready...This guy isn't worth it and may be out for all he can get...SAY NO!!!
2006-06-12 06:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold to your morals, If he really loves you, I mean truly loves you, he'll wait. Besides, 14 is too young, Live your life, don't be in a hurry to grow up, you don't want to do anything to ruin your future. Stick to your guns, don't let him try to sweet talk you, sound to me like he's only after one thing. And whatever you do, don't put yourself into a situation where something could happen. Hope it all works out for you!
2006-06-12 06:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by baronrot03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very proud of your stand on this. My daughter has the same views. I see nothing wrong with wanting to wait until you are married. Any boy who would pressure you into having sex is NOT looking out for your best interests at all. He is only looking out for himself!!! And if he loves you as he says then he would want to wait as long as it took. Love should not be a guilt trip!!! Kick him to the curb if he doesn't want to wait!!!
2006-06-12 06:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want, you can let him go, but remember that sex will be the ambition of almost every boy you meet so you are going to run into this over and over.
There are other things you can do to satisfy his "urges" that don't require you to risk pregnancy, or your virtue. Offer those, and if that still isn't enough for him, all you can do is let him go and pressure someone else.
2006-06-12 06:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by Besmirched Tea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋