A good friend of mine is getting married. I have a bridesmaids dress that is a wine color, from standing up in another friends wedding, (cost $150). The colors of my friends getting married is deep red. My boyfriend is the best man. Would it be bad if I wore my dress to the wedding? Seeing that the colors are very close? I would like to have a picture of my boyfriend and I matching, even though I am not standing up in the wedding. I also hate the fact that I have this beautiful dress, that cost alot and I only wore once.
2006-06-12 06:45:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The dress is in 2 pieces. (3 if you include the shawl)
A corset top with beautiful beading. and a satin A line skirt. very different than what the girls will be wearing. Although, I am not standing up in the wedding. I am helping out alot for them. The groom to be is one of my bestfriends as well as my boyfriend, and I became good friend with his fiancee since they've been dating.
2006-06-12 07:05:58 · update #1
Oh yeah, The wedding is in November. The ceremony and the reception are being done back to back at the same hall.
2006-06-12 07:44:12 · update #2
If I were you, I would simply take the time to call the bride, and ask her if she minds that a dress you'd like to wear to her wedding happens to be a close color to that of her bridesmaids dresses. Most likely she won't mind, but if she does, don't take offense... simply accept whatever she says. You can probably wear that dress again to another function soon anyway.
2006-06-12 07:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by autochik1 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't wear it. There was a girl that came to my wedding and wore a formal dress and it really wasn't appreciated too much. If you are good friends with the bride I would ask her, but I know that at my wedding a lot of people were talking about this girl that wore a formal dress saying that she must think she's special or something so I don't know. Maybe before your boyfriend leaves for the wedding you can put your dress on and get a pic of the two of you together, but I wouldn't wear it to the wedding if you're not actually part of the wedding.
2006-06-12 06:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by kmb0506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it would look bad unless you copied the brides dress totally in all its grandeur or tried to look as if you actively wanted more attention than her.
If shes a good friend maybe she wont mind if you confide in her, just say somthing like ;
"I have this dress thats really lovely and I want to wear it, theres just one thing im worried about..........................then explain how its absolutely not your intention to upstage her but personally you have a lot of reasons why you really would like to wear the dress.... you could say "I can honestly say thats not the case but how would you feel if I wore it (knowing its a similar kind of colour)? would it you mind/feel offended?"
The chances are that was she going to potentially feel that way, you have aired your reasons for wearing it and completely squashed any worries she might have had on the day about it. After all, its just being honest and you have nothing to hide at all. Communication solves so many problems and im sure she wont mind, chances are you are worrying too much, but I really dont think you need to.
If she says its not a problem to her then hopefully it will put your mind at rest and you shouldnt have to worry about what anyone else thinks, most people arent that critical or plain judgemental to mentally criticize you for wearing a dress thats not even the same, but a similar colour to the brides.
Still, if it IS really too similar in other ways, maybe think about a change!
2006-06-12 07:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Zinc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the dress is two pieces, find a nice black skirt to wear with the top, or vice versa.
Part of the thing with being a bridesmaid is buying dresses you will never wear again. Sorry! And possibly upsetting the bride so that you can match your *boyfriend*, not even husband, just doesn't seem worth it. Sorry again!
2006-06-12 13:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard not to wear white to a wedding because that color is reserved for the bride... but i have never heard of trying to avoid matching the wedding party. As long as the dress looks like a nice wedding appropiate dress and not is only identifible as a 'bridesmaid' dress, I think you are alright.
2006-06-12 06:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by lexie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How formal is the wedding, and what time of the day will it be held? If it's a morning wedding, or the rest of the guests won't be dressed as formally, you might feel out of place and overdressed.
If I were you, I'd ask the bride if she would be OK with you wearing the dress. From your description, it sounds like it would be all right, but I'd still talk with the bride.
2006-06-12 07:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wear the dress. You can get some nice pictures with your boyfriend, you won't have to go shopping for something to wear to the wedding, and you can acually wear a dress that you paid $150 for twice. It's a win, win, win situation! Hope you have a wonderful time.
2006-06-12 06:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by sami_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride's maids will be in matching (and, if experience is any indication) hideous dresses. If you have a pretty dress that you want to wear, and it just happens to be a similar shade to the bride's maid's outfits, that's just coincidence. The bride does not get to coopt an entire slice of the spectrum, (other than white, of course).
Go ahead and wear it. No problem.
2006-06-12 06:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy something different one for the other wedding. Sell your dress after the affair--ebay-craig's list, etc. You would be amazed at how much you can get for the dress--sell the shoes too!
have a great time!
2006-06-12 06:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by banker lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since the bride is a good friend of yours...ask her! :) tell her exactly what you have said here...and ask if she would mind if you wore your dress....hope you both have a lovely day.
2006-06-12 06:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by glasgow gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋