my friends mom is pregnant and is getting married to this guy she dosent like and thats the babys father, should she tell him she dosent like him? shes been trying to tell her mom but her mom loves him what should she do?
2006-06-12 06:23:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your friend's mom should just tell him she doesn't like him. It would be worse for her to marry someone she doesn't like, because it will in up in them splitting. Your friends mom's mom should be able to deal with the fact that she doesn't like him and be able to live with it.
2006-06-12 06:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
your friend needs to understand that her mom has the right to love whoever she wishes. To marry the father will hopefully assure the baby of a mom and a dad. They want to marry bc they love each other and the union is an act declaring love of a woman to a man.
Your friend should talk to this guy as if he is a stranger. In truth he is a stranger and there is a lot more underneath his head than she knows of. Her mom needs the experience. What if instead of looking at what she doesn't like in him, she should have him, dat guy do stuff with her dat she likes to do. Make him drive you around to the super market. Have him help you with your homework. He wants to be a dad, teach him what a dad should be.
Lapis Lazuli
2006-06-12 06:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lapis Lazuli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, if your friend doesn't like the baby, is she going to tell Mom & expect Mom to get rid of it? Did this work with any of her other brothers or sisters when she didn't like them??
My point is: The only part of your family that YOU get to choose all by yourself is your husband/wife. The rest of your family, you just have to accept, and keep your distance if nothing else works. So, why should it be different for stepfamily? Unless she honestly thinks he's going to hurt someone in the family, she doesn't have much to stand on here. Besides, she will grow up & move away, anyway; so it's not like she has to live with him forever.
2006-06-12 06:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definitely talk to her mom about why she doesn't like the guy. It's possible that she's feeling jealous or left out or there's something else going on that can be talked out. If not, at least her mom will know how she feels. Her mom will probably still be with the guy since she loves him, but maybe she will be more careful of her daughter's feelings.
2006-06-12 06:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's such a difficult situation! I am assuming your friend is a teenager? She should talk to her mom about how she feels- but she needs to be very mature about it. Her mom has the right to marry and be happy. Your friend needs to make sure that she tells her mom that she respects her decision to marry this guy- and most importantly she needs to let her mom know how happy she is for her. It's possible that through good communication, your friend and her mom's soon-to-be new husband might be able to have a good relationship someday. Good luck to them!
2006-06-12 06:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell him, because they may have to work out these issue. Is the guy abusive, a drunk or a drug addict? or does your friend not like him for silly reason's? This is not unusual. But it can be worked out if he doesn't have serious problems such as those mentioned above. I am not a cop, I am just being truthful, your friend might have real issue with this guy or not. Also it sounds like both mom and future step dad are a little irrisposible to begin with, they might have more serious issues.
2006-06-12 06:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by NANCY J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell her moher why she does not like the baby's daddy because if she straight out tells her mother that she doesn't like him, it will surely make her mother mad and want to ignore her daughter's complaints even more. So, just an explaination should help. If it doesn't, then maybe she should try to build a better relationship with that guy, because she's gonna have to deal with the baby's daddy anyway.
2006-06-12 06:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by mani boo/poo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a specific reason why she doesn't like him, or is something like, your not my father, so I don't want you to marry my mom sort of thing.
If he's doing something to hurt her, then she should tell her mom exactly what he's doing to hurt her, but advise her NOT to accuse him of anything that hes not doing.
But if she's old enough to move out on her own, then perhaps that's what she ought to do.
2006-06-12 06:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her mom yes, I'm not sure that will make a difference being that there getting married and they have a baby on the way, but even though she shouldn't keep quite on such a big issue
2006-06-12 06:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by QUEEN OF LOS ANGELES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think telling him that she doesn't like him will bring tension into the house. Unless he's a sex offender then let him be, he makes her mom happy and that's all that should matter. Give it time he just might impress her (you friend) and they might actually get along after a while
2006-06-12 06:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋