Do you think it's wrong to want to check out your engagment ring behind your soon to be fiances back? When we talked about getting married and he told me how much he was looking to spend, I went out and started looking around. Well, I know that he went to put a downpayment on the ring that I picked out, thank God I went to see it because it wasnt the one I wanted! The lady he talked to got it all wrong! Lucky thing, the lady that I talked to called my fiance to clearify. Was I wrong? I mean he didnt pick it out, he wanted what I wanted.
2006-06-12 06:17:38 · 7 answers · asked by face9202004 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe I should clearify, my fiance doesnt know that I went to the Jeweler to see the ring, he thinks that she the owner caught the mistake and corrected it....
2006-06-12 06:48:22 · update #1
thersa33, this is a ring I already picked out that he knew all about! This isnt a $2000 dollar ring, we're talk 10k easy, he'd be more than upset if he bought one it and it was wrong.
2006-06-12 07:39:20 · update #2
Well it's kinda wornd but at the same time it's nt all that wrong casue you already had picked it out so you knew what is was going to look like. So no it's not all wrong.
2006-06-12 07:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think in this instance, if you picked out what you wanted and the ring was wrong, you were lucky the mistake was caught. Do I think that a woman should go around and pick her own ring out? absolutely not. I think you can help with the styles you like, and that is it. I would hate to think I spent thousands and it wasnt "good enough". I think if you havent told him that you looked at it and caught the mistake, you know you are the reason the saleslady called, then you should tell him. Dont start keeping things from him already. congrats!
2006-06-12 13:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by mama2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have been wrong to go behind his back. You should have trusted him. A ring is a symbol of your promise to be married.. What it looks like should not be important enough to go behind his back. In my opinion you should have trusted him. You also need to tell him what went on. You can put it in whatever light you want to put it in, but all the same he deserves the courtesy of knowing what happened. This probably isn't the best way to start off a marriage or engagement. Next time trust him and let yourself be surprised. It is so much more fun that way.
Short story of relevance. When my husband proposed he didn't have a ring. Which was fine given the circumstances, but he wouldn't let me help pick it out. He wanted to do that himself. When he did find it he showed it to me before he bought it. At first I didn't like it all that much. But it was what he wanted for me. He thought it fit me and our relationship. We went together and bought it, and once it was on my finger I loved it. I still love it and the wedding set that went with it. I would not have chosen a different ring to this day if I could have had any other ring. This one is perfect mainly because of what it means. Trust your soon to be husband, and don't go behind his back. It is amazing how things might turn out despite all your plans and visions of how you think it should be.
2006-06-12 14:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have been wrong for you to go behind your fiance's back and check out the ring (after all I'm sure he wanted it to be a surprise) but if he's not upset about it, I wouldn't worry. Things probably would've worked out for the best anyway (he would've noticed he got the wrong thing) but you stopped it before it happened so if you're both happy, don't sweat it!
2006-06-12 13:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it should be a problem Marriage is a thing you do together. You just helped him a little! This should be THE day so make sure everything is as you guys wish. Communication is a big word not only now but also further in the marriage.
Congrats, and hope you have a great life together
2006-06-12 13:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lovertje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? I don't know. Sleazy? Yes!!! Why did you feel you had to go behind his back in the first place? Would you not have loved ANY ring he got you?
2006-06-12 14:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's prob fine since he thinks the shop lady caught the mistake.
2006-06-13 20:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋