we decided when we met we were soul mates almost two years had past and when i went off to go to and intership he cheated with a much older women. i was so hurt. prior to that we fought all the timeabout anything and everything. i am not sure if it was his guilt that pushed me away or he was really mad or if i was ready to give up on the man i love. we are both 19 and he has cheated on me only once. not very long ago but is for sure over now. he has told me he woud die for me and that does not seem like a man who would run off to shack up with another.we are truly in love. we are back together sorting out the pieces as much as we can. but we want the fights and guilt and mistrust to end. if anyone older than us can help. we need folks with life experience. thank you all for the help.
2006-06-12 05:08:31 · 4 answers · asked by danielle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if what you had was love if you argued about everything prior to him cheating on you. It is difficult to have a good relationship with someone if you can't trust them . It would be like building on sand, you won't have a strong foundation.As difficult as it may be, try to give yourself time to see if you want to put time and effort into saving this relationship with a man who said he would die for you but couldn't be faithful to you while you were on your internship. Ask yourself what can he say that could make you trust him again?
2006-06-12 05:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 33. My husband cheated on me right after our oldest son was born-eight years ago. You can put it all past you, but if things get bad again, those old feelings of mistrust and insecurity will surface-it is part of being in love. Unfortunately, your relationship can also reach the point where you just don't care anymore. (that is where I am). If things get to that point, you need to cut your losses and move on.
2006-06-12 12:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NEVER going to work, hard as you might want it to! There has been too much damage done already to this relationship. I know it hurts, and bad too, but not as much as it will later unless you stop it now. Better to hurt a little now, rather than a lot later on. Pick up the pieces of YOUR life, not his, and move on. It will get better, but it is going to take a while. Good Luck!!
2006-06-12 12:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is a tricky thing , quite the only true healer is time , for some that is only minutes or days for others it is years, only u can anwser that one u must decide if it is worth the fight for the end result,
2006-06-12 12:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋