does any of you still think that waiting to have sex after marriage is a good idea ?or is it outdated ?i believe in having sex after marriage and i'm willing to wait .i've had a couple of bf's who dumped me because i didn't do it , you know ..isn't there any true romantic who could appreciate this in a girl ?
2006-06-12 04:00:18 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure - you just did not pick them - everyone has different feelings and some people believe sex is a part of a relationship - everyone is different - lets say you were dating a guy who didnt like to hug or hold hands - what would you do?
but you do what makes you comfortable - the right guy for you will wait or you will be willing to do it with him.
2006-06-12 04:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Qmarc Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should do what's best for yourself. Don't let what other people think of you change your behavior. Now I'll give you my honest opinion. I personally would not go out with a woman who has never had sex, or wants to wait til marriage. I have hormones running through my body that are always saying, "git r done." I wouldn't force myself on someone and violate their beliefs. But I just simply would not see them anymore if they weren't willing to have sex with me after a reasonable period of time. Now, I do have a good friend of mine who has a girlfriend that's waiting until she's married. She is 23 and so is he. Although it drives him insane because of his hormones and need for sex, he's willing to wait for her. It really all depends on the guy.
2006-06-12 11:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by TonyDrummond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not to worry about such things. Set a goal for yourself-waiting until marriage is your goal. Personally in my expirence, I was always the "oh hell no!" kinda girl about having sex before marriage, but after finding someone that I really REALLY cared about, things slowly started to change. I'm still a virgin, 100%, but I realized that it is probably gonna be really hard to wait. So I set that goal for myself. I am gonna try my hardest to wait and I know that I can, but if I don't, I want to be in a monogamous relationship. No one is worth your time if they break up with you for not having sex, you should be glad...they did you a favor.
2006-06-12 11:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Whit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it is way out dated. I work with a guy who got married without kicking the tires and now 5 years later he is begging for sex because she has no sex drive.
2006-06-12 13:26:06 · answer #4 · answered by Namcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's outdated. I was with my girlfriend for 13 years before we married. I don't have your sort of willpower. What is the big hangup about sex? You need a virgin priest to bless you before it's OK?
2006-06-12 11:08:08 · answer #5 · answered by andy in greece 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is outdated. I think it makes more of the relationship and makes it stronger. The only reason that those guy dumped you was because they were there for one reason. So they aren't the right person for you. I think its honorable what your doing.
2006-06-12 11:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by PhantumBG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm not a guy, Im waiting to marriage, and any guy that tries to tell you other wise is stupid.
ps(if you dont sleep around or anything, whats up with your screen name? Its kind of trashy and gives another impression.)
2006-06-12 11:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think thats cool! your probably better off without them guys. i could of had sex with a few girls but i choose not to only having sex with my gf for 3 years because i love her
2006-06-12 11:05:04 · answer #8 · answered by frostyg02uk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting married is outdated! I say, if you like the guy and it feels right, go for it....just be safe! Enjoy!
2006-06-12 11:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Vincent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be the one that decides. I am sure there is a guy out there that will appreciate that you want it to be special for JUST him.
2006-06-12 11:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by smiths j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋