Well, he likes to kiss me once when we meet and when I'm leaving. But other than that he doesn't look at me or hug me or talk to me much. But tone of his voice is much lower and and mumbling when he talks to me compare to when he talks to his buddies. I donno, maybe it's because he's an orphan. I'm 27 and he's 33. Maybe he's having a bad period in his life like not making enough money ... :P
2006-06-12 03:45:45 · 24 answers · asked by ladybug21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, you have received some really interesting answers! I suppose adding to them all will probably only manage to confuse you more but why don't you try this!
You wouldn't have asked the question if you didn't still care about him, right? Look back on the start of the relationship and compare today with the first day. Is there really a difference in his behavior or in yours? Sometimes we look at the other person for the answers when they are in us. If he was orphaned he has issues with trust, love, abandonment and a host of others. Maybe he has these concerns about you! Talk to him and ask him what he wants and then tell him what you want from the relationship. Everyone questions their relationship at least once a week no matter how long they have been together or how much in love they may be. But, those questions may not be what your thinking! Just ask him! He may not know what is expected of him, or you! P.S. Most guys do not feel threatened by their Buds because they aren't expected to be anything but who they are around the guys. You have to show him that he can BE HIMSELF around you too! Don't make him change and don't expect him to. If you love him, than you love him for who he is, not what you want him to be!
2006-06-12 04:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are set up differently than girls - that's just a fact. What are your expectations for him "showing" you that he likes you? Some guys "show" thier gf's by doing things - mowing the lawn, working extra shifts, etc. and not necessarily by doing public displays of affection.
I would probably bet that because he was an orphan, that he might have experienced an attachment disorder and is not as able or willing to make himself vulnerable to very many people. It's a wonder that he even opens up to you. But if you are considering being with this person, then I would gently ask him how he feels about things and if he's ever considered counseling for his past issues (abandonment issues would probably be high on the list - but don't use words like that because he'll think you're trying to diagnose him).
Just be real with him and tell him that you want more affection and attention - but only if he's willing to give it. If he says no, then he really isn't emotionally healthy enough to have a relationship right now.
Good luck to you no matter what happens.
2006-06-12 10:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably said the key thing in your description, he was an orphan. He was more than likely not raised in a loving home with lots of affection. Needless to say, he probably has other issues from not being with his natural family that he still may be dealing with deep down. How loving or affectionate someone is will be formed during his early childhood and if he is not from a loving and openly affectionate family, typically he may never be like that himself. You should ask yourself if he is what you want because he may never become what you want if I am properly reading your question and information.
2006-06-12 10:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Buff Is Gone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not normal. He should at least show you that he likes you even if he never says that he loves you. If he's going through a bad period in life then he needs to be alone. I don't know girl may you need to talk to him and tell him to stop that mumbling. You want to hear him talk. Good Luck.
2006-06-12 10:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God, you know I was mad at you when I read the question .i was going to tell you that when all men all over the world fall in love they shower the woman with thier affiction and care (take Tom Cruis for an example)But when you said he is an orphan,I felt sad for him .Please take care of him ,he may not know how to show his love.God luck with him.
2006-06-12 10:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by stilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no it's not normal for a guy to like a women and act that way. Usually when a guy is with his girlfriend, they tend to hold hands, cuddle (when at home), and show that they are happy to be with them.
2006-06-12 10:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just doesnt feel the same way as you do, and like to see other people. You two need to talk things over, before you get HURT
2006-06-12 10:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by union_lonely_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and ask him what's wrong and let him know that he can tell you or talk to you about anything and that you are there for him. But if he is cheating, dump his butt!
2006-06-12 10:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is toying with you, he 33 and 27 u c the defference, i he doesn't show you anything is because he doesn't love you, but i'm wrong may be is other thing.
2006-06-12 10:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Oriel-Nirnaan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just are not into showing affection to their woman., although they love them more than their actions indicate.
2006-06-12 10:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋