2006-06-12 03:44:18 · 17 answers · asked by MissNurse 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think it is because we tend to dwell on the negative comments that are made about us by taking simple statements much too personally. One of my favorite quotes sums it up best: "He who angers you controls you". Sometimes we get so consumed with being angry about an action or a statement made by someone else, that we constantly think about it, we ALLOW it to bother us, and we naturally react in a negative manner.
2006-06-12 06:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It seems like it's kind of human nature doesn't it?
I used to be caught up in the same type of situations. When it started to really take over my life I decided to take control of my own emotions(not easy for me). Now when people try to put there bad attitudes off on me, I just stop and let myself realize that it's there problem and it is NOT gonna effect me. The saying "misery loves company" is definitely well founded and unfortunately there are alot of miserable people out there.
2006-06-12 10:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by DeltaQueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already happy, you have a positive outlook.
If you are already sad, you have a negative outlook. It's much easier for a negative personality to manipulate someones negative feelings. And if you are pessimistic, you tend to take EVERYTHING negatively.
2006-06-13 05:14:50 · answer #3 · answered by BrianL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering what you really mean with the question... Are you asking why we let people make us "feel bad about ourselves"? Like we did something wrong to hurt another?
I think people who do that are the ones who have a sense of insecurity about themselves, and try to control you by making you need to satisfy them.
2006-06-16 02:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we have a tendency to take things personally, we assume another's negative behavior had to do with us, and we take on a negative feeling.
If we're able to realize their negativity toward us is ONLY a reflection of who they are, and not related to who we are, then we're free from this control.
2006-06-12 14:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it may be due to a lack of confidence in ourselves, a lack of faith in what we feel. Those who are confident and who trust themselves are better able to stand alone (if need be) with faith and conviction in their feelings and beliefs. I also think it may be because we are immature and we react instead of proact. This is what children do. Maturity in all areas is difficult to achieve. So is confidence and self-trust. But these are worth the struggle. It's easy to say "don't let others dictate how you feel" and a challenge to attain this level of maturity and confidence. But after all, living is for learning, so learn on.
2006-06-12 10:54:54 · answer #6 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow! I didn't realize I was doing that to you!
Hold on... where did those puppet strings go... just a sec... they're around here somewhere... ahh, here we are... oh for Pete's sake... I had your puppet strings all tangled... I'm terribly sorry... didn't realize it... why didn't you say something sooner... tug-tug... let's see if we can induce a little positivity back into you... boing-boing... can you feel it... can you feel your limbs all bouncy-bouncy again... jiggle-jiggle... head is lighter... feeling more positive now?
Aside from the bee-ess puppet story, I don't know why we let people do that to us!!
2006-06-12 18:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Question Monster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of confidence and self esteem. it is also passed down from generation to generation, it is inherited by example within families. prominent in society. people treat each other with disdain and pass it on. it's actually more rare to seem someone self confident with self esteem. there should be classes taught in school for educating people on self worth. our country's school curriculum sucks, there are really no tools for kids to make it in the real world being taught in schools these day, or at least not many.
2006-06-12 10:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often, it is because we are insecure and do not have confidence in our own power and approval. We look outside for affirmation and validation. When someone offers offense we take it to heart as a judgement of who we are rather than their weakness.
2006-06-12 10:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cee Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, glad your back to blond..nice..
and we all have that tendency from time to time, maybe it is our own sort comings and we let ourselves get attacked this way..and maybe it is out of us just being over nice and not acting like the person whom is attacking us..so we just take it..
well SMILE
good luck
2006-06-12 19:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋