What do you do to get over first-date jitters?

Answer 1

If you're nervous, she's going to notice. You can still be nervous inside but be calm outside. Here's how you do it. Women are incredibly good at reading body language so make slow and calculated movements. Speak in a deep tone because when you speak with a high pitched/whiny voice it shows nervousness. When you do speak, do so very slowly in a calm manner. Another important thing to do is keep a good amount of eye contact with your date. If you're always looking away then she'll know you're nervous, so look her in the eye and show her you're not afraid. Also remember not to fidget, remember slow and calculated movements. Don't laugh too much because when you do it releases tension.

Now, here's what you do to get over those jitters in the first place. Just remind yourself that you're worthy of spending time with a quality woman. Don't act shy and force yourself to seem outgoing and unafraid. When you two are talking, don't lean forward. Instead what you want to do is lean back and let her believe you're calm as ever. Speak with her like you're old friends. Remember that it's all in your head man and you have the ability to block out any nervousness. Ask yourself this question before walking up to her door, "What do I have to lose?"

One last piece of advice... Take her out for a cup of coffee and NOT a fancy dinner. Don't go blowing our paycheck to impress this lady otherwise she'll think she's the only choice you have left. Picnics, nature walks, cooking classes, are WAY better than taking her out for a 100 dollar dinner. Be unique and you'll be rewarded.

Answer 2

Just try to make them as comfortable around you as you can - even you are just as nervous ( Humor is a grand idea - but BE COOL). I would say that having the first date jitters is a TERRIFIC thing ! Hopefully all of that hoo haa of emotion will stay around for you two for many more dates to come! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

Be yourself!!! Think of going out with your mom or grandma - you wouldn't be nervous around them because you are being yourself and you know that they accept you for who you are.

Well, first date jitters are coming from not knowing what's going to happen - will she laugh at me, will she hate the way I dress - all of those things revolve around acceptance of who you are. If you accept and love yourself, then you know that you are a worthwhile person - and you also know that if someone doesn't like you, then it's just their preference - and it's probably a good thing to weed out the wierdos right away.

Have confidence, relax and be yourself!!! Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Grin and bear it. Before the date think of what sort of things you could talk about so that there's never a dull moment (the most uncomfortable).

Hypothetically speaking you could go on many dates so that eventually you would get over being nervous....

I say go, be confident in who you are and what you're about, and have fun. If she doesn't like you then it wasn't meant to be.

Try deep breathing before picking her up for the date. Exercize early in the day to get your endorphines up and that energy out.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Relax and remember this is only the first date. You have to relax or you might not get a second date. Relax..........and relax so more. Whatever you do, don't drink too much because then you will mess things up. Once again take a deep breath and relax. Good luck.

Answer 6

well, you have to understand that you are who you are and you can not control what someone else is going to think of you. Each person has their own unique way of coming up with conclusions about a person and you just have to be yourself in order to feel the most comfortable. Trying to be something that you think the other person wants you to be is absolutely impossible. No one can be inside someone else's brain so just chill and be confident in the terrific person that you are. That's all that matters. I promise!

It's about having a fun conversation and hopefully a good meal.

Answer 7

I'm a joker, so I try to make them laugh. When you laugh, everything seems to open up and the uneasiness is lifted. Go to a sports bar and talk about sports, if that's the other person's thing. Use outside elements to break the ice.

Answer 8

Just be yourself, don't go overboard on trying to impress her, cracking a few good jokes often helps, especially if she finds the jokes amusing, and above all treat her with respect. Good Luck, and I hope that all goes well for both of you:)

Answer 9

Watch a comedy together laughing always breaks the ice

Answer 10

First you go on the date.
“If she said yes to that date, that means she made planes when she could have just blown you off. Your job is no longer to impress her, it NOT to mess things up.” – HITCH
Be yours self and you’ll be fine.