Should I see a therapist because of.....?

Question

I have VERY low self esteem. Im 15 y/o and today, as everybody knows, all of the advertisements and magazines and EVERYTHING are really making teens struggle with self image and everything. well I am one of them. I am not overweight (weight=117 height=5'0) but I feel so big and overweight compared to how everybody looks these days. I was even anorexic for about 2 weeks a month ago. All of my friends are sooo skinny and I just want to be like them and have guys look at me the way guys look at them. My friend always tell me that I am not fat and I am beautiful and being short is good for a girl, but I think they just say that to be nice. There are so many things about myself that I hate and I just can't stand it. I sometimes even cry at night because of this.

everybody has a knows the kind of guy they think they will marry (looks,personality,etc.) and my "dream guy", I just always think why would he want me

Do I need professional help or is this normal for teens now-a-days?

Answer 1

You are just beginning to discover life.
Ever heard of 5foot nothing of dynamite-this is what you could be.
Girl at that age the world is slowly opening out to you as your mind expands and starts to understand thing better and better. Don't look at your own self, look at world around, take in the inputs, assimilate than and use them rather than being self critical.
From what you've written, I am sure that you are a beautiful person, increase that beauty by enjoying the world, believe your friends when they praise you, and suddenly you'll find the things better.

As far as self introspection is concerned, it is good to learn and improve form ones mistakes, not dwell on them, improve yourself, and your life, do things that you like and admire and I am sure you'll be a wonderful human being!

Gosh I wish I was 16 again! (Just kidding I am old enough to be your pop)


All da best!
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Answer 2

As a 15 y/o kid, you strike me as being pretty smart for recognizing the ridiculous pressure that is placed on girls these days-and try to remember that the camera only shoots what it WANTS you to see-on tv, photos (most of which have been retouched), whatever. An unrealistic body image is just that.....unrealistic.

If you can, talk to your folks-or to a trusted adult or two, in addition to your friends. The advice from your friends is important, but trusted adults can help you see what your friends can't, because their perspective is based on actual life experience. The teen years are just hard sometimes, sweetie. There is just soooo much crap you guys have to deal with.....when I was your age (I'm 40 now) there were kids who didn't like that I was the shape I was because I didn't look the way they did. Kids are gonna say stuff just because that's what they do....you have to remember that you have lots of cool qualities that make you unique, and there's a lot to be said for the kids who are the trailblazers. Keep your chin up.....talk to someone you trust who cares for you, and if they think you need to see a professional, then get help from your parents.

Answer 3

Consider this if you will. Someone sitting in a large advertising agency decides that a 'particular look' is going to be the 'in thing' and pretty soon we are suffering from a deluge of skinny, emaciated models on billboards, magazines, and television.....all well and good so far, right?

The problem is that shallow, dimwitted 'sheeple' pick up on this crap and think it's a cool idea to follow the adverising executive's idea and try to emulate it. YOU however are a perfectly 'normal' teen and quite frankly should ignore this nonsense and see it for what it is...it's FICTION! It's all made up! Anyone who puts themselves through torture to try and fit in with some idiot in an advertising agency fictionalised idea of reality really needs a good slap. Be who you are, you're normal!

Answer 4

Morgan--you are experiencing a normal phase of the maturing process--everyone goes thru some form of it--being uncomfortable with who and what you are is a driver that causes one to examine who and what you are and causes you to weigh the options for change---the danger point here is your brief bout with the 'anorexic' thing--But--you caught it and ended it and that's a really good sign that your skills at judgement are still very much intact and functioning---don't be so hard on yourself---and believe me when I say that when this "dream guy" shows up in your life--he will see a YOU that you don't even know exists and he will be absolutely EMERSED in how beautiful and complete you are--will probably even be wondering privately what in the world you see in him----make peace with yourself Morgan you are going to be spending alot of time with you and it would be nice if you two got along----------PEACE TO YOU------------

Answer 5

One time I went to see a psychologist for my intense obsessive-compulsive disorder problems, and he just made everything worse. So you'd be taking a chance by going to see someone. But at this point, I'd say that it's a pretty safe chance that seeing a psychologist is the best thing to do.

Answer 6

Its a normal feelings which everyone has.You should also understand that there are many more important things in this world and the world dosent go aroung only bcz of guys.Concentrate on ur studies.
Good luck.

Answer 7

my name is mary and when i was your age i went through pretty much the same thing you are going through right now its not easy i know but just because you dont fit into everyone elses vocabulary of pretty or beautiful doesnt mean you arent beautiful but maybe you should see acounselor to help you realize how special and beautiful you are.

Answer 8

perfectly normal, It will pass. If you still feel the same in 10 years you wont be unusuall.

Answer 9

NO YOU SHOULD SEE SOMEONE IF YOU FEEL DEPRESSED. DEPRESSION SPREADS LIKE WILD FIRE. GET AHOLD OF IT BEFORE IT GETS HOLD OF YOU