he makes me do things im not ready to do with him and i love him and im afraid if i tell him no he will leave me and i would be lost without him what should i do?
2006-06-12 03:31:39 · 20 answers · asked by myranda r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him if he loves you he wouldnt make you do whatever he is making you do dont let him control you if he loves you he will come back to you
2006-06-12 03:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your bf really loves you, he will respect your wishes. If you're not comfortable doing something, tell him. No one should force you to do something you're not comfortable with. Especially your bf.
Trust me, I was in a relationship were the guy was doing the same thing to me. If I said no, he would send me on a guilt trip. I would eventually give in. I started to resent him really fast. I also became depressed and thought that there was something wrong with me because I didn't want any form of physical contact from him at all anymore. I would actually cringe when he touched me and we were alone.
I also stayed with him a lot longer then I should have. I wasted so much time on him. Now, I've been with the most wonderful guy in the world. He has never forced me in any way. If I say no, it's no. Even if we haven't done anything in months. He still respects my wishes.
So, just tell your bf want you want or don't want. If he doesn't respect that after you've explained it to him. Leave him. A guy that doesn't respect you is not worth it. You'll be ok on your own. There are a lot of other guys out there.
2006-06-12 03:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should explain to him how you are feeling about these things. Try to get him to understand were you are coming from and how uncomfortable you are. Explain to him that you feel as though he might leave you if you don't do what he ask and if he is a loving person and loves you as much as you love him then everything should be fine. And if you get too the point were you are pressured free your self for a while. -Its better to have loved and lost than not have loved at all-
2006-06-12 03:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by newmother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything you are not comfortable doing and if he has a problem, he can leave. He doesn't care about you if he is putting you in a situation that makes you feel uneasy. Talk to him about it but like I said, if he really cares, he will understand. You may feel lost without him but life is a journey you were born alone so there should be nothing you cannot handle. Good Luck.
2006-06-12 03:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him no and he leaves you, then he wasn't worth anything to begin with and you are probably better off without him. You should never, ever be forced to do anything you are not comfortable with. That is a total lack of respect. Lose him and find someone that will respect you and your body. There's someone so much better for you out there.
2006-06-12 03:42:42 · answer #5 · answered by sjb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your guy is making you do things you don't want to do or feel uncomfortable doing YOU NEED TO TELL HIM! You can't live your life making other people happy because your afraid of them leaving you!The way you have to look at it is that he should be happy to have you and if he doesn't want you because you won't let him do things to you that hurt you, your a silly little girl for being with him. You are strong! Let him know what you want! Tell him that the things he is doing hurts you and you don't like it! If he leaves, he wasn't the one for you! But, remember if he tells you he cares about you, what makes you think he won't like you more if you tell him what you Do like? Tell him you want THIS instead of THAT! Be assertive! Don't cower down! Most men like women who know what they want! If they want a servant they can hire one!
2006-06-12 03:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by wonderingmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm. if he still insist on making you do what he wants you to do then he doesn't really respect you at all, and if he doesn't respect you then surely he doesn't truly love you. and if that's the case then you should throw him off, leave him. im sure you are stronger than what you said. cause if you are not then you won't be here asking it you would just be doing what he wants you to do. you having doubts yourself that whats make you stronger and capable of leaving him and living without him.
do the right thing girl.
2006-06-12 03:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Xxx☆pjay☆xxX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never do anything that you are not comfortable with. I know that it's hard to not do especially since you love the person but talk to him and just explain yourself. And girlfriend if he leaves you because you honest and upfront with him then he just wasn't the guy for you and it's best you find out now rather than later. Just say NO, sometimes it just that simple.
2006-06-12 03:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok if a man like that does that you should say whatever he is doing to stop and talk to him and if that dont work leav him.
2006-06-12 03:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by jamie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all he dont respect you or he wouldnt make you do then. leave him he has no respect or love for you second of all i wouldnt of done it no matter what get a life and get the hell away from him
2006-06-12 03:35:47 · answer #10 · answered by silvereagle1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even in a relationship no means no. made you is forcing you and that is rape call the law and have him put behind bars where all rapist belong.
respect yourself and stop caring for someone who treats you so badly.
2006-06-12 03:38:53 · answer #11 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋