I always told myself that a boy could never make me cry but one did last night. For the first time in 6 months i think my bf is cheating and i plan on confronting him today. we never had trust problems but he has given me a reason to be suspicious. Im leaving for college anyway so should i leave him or stick with him.
2006-06-12 03:30:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be too impulsive in making decisions.Sit down to him ask what you want to know let him affirm if its true or not and if just your suspicious and no concrete evidence better have one on one talk to him..not just dump him without letting him state his side..and if he's guilt free stick to him if you love him deeply.
2006-06-12 03:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by effy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I would suggest. At first just a short get acquainted visit, but under no circumstances let your ex gf take her anyplace. Keep a tight lish on her (the ex, not your daughter). If you would feel comfortable having a mediator from child services present to sort of be in charge of the visit then that is perfectly alright. Your primary responsibility is the protection of your daughter. If your ex is clean, then she shouldn't display any signs of drugs in her system. How do you know she is clean. Twelve years is a long time to stay away, and now all of a sudden she wants to re-enter the picture. I would be very apprehensive letting her. If your daughter wants to meet her, again make it a short visit, but not an overnighter. I don't trust her and I've never met her. As a father of four children I would be very cautious at what her motives are all of a sudden wanting to come back and be a part of your lives. Yes you would also be back in the picture as well. Definitely have a third party present as a witness to whatever the ex does or says. If she slips up, a mediator can detect it, where you don't have the training.
2016-03-27 01:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the thing is, even when you confront him, it's not as if he'll tell you he's actually cheating.(or at least not usually) Do you have anything concrete? or just suspicions? some signs are less time spent with you, saying they'll be one place but not there, not answering phone calls, a little cool toward you, "need space".....bottom line long distance relationships rarely work. especially when you're younger...plus you're just setting out in the world and there are incredible people to meet, places to see, and things to do. You don't need drama. Search your heart and you'll know what to do, but give him the chance to defend/explain.
2006-06-12 03:36:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a man(boy) so there is a 99%change that he could be cheating upon you, the other 1% is he's cheating on you with another man.
Men needs to understand that you cannot treat a woman like you treat your male friends. If he doesn't treat you like you think a man should treat a girl then he doesn't deserve you, he needs to prove everyday that you're the one and if not then he probably wasn't meant for you.
2006-06-12 03:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by interface2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to determine if he broke the trust. But also, can a long distance relationship work? It's hard enough maintaining a long distance relationship that is strong, but if you two are having issues now, your going away will not help. It's probably going to end, just try not to let it end on a bad note.
Good luck.
2006-06-12 03:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you feel the "feeling" of suspicion, always confront. If you know him good enough, you'll know when that other person is lying.
The best thing is to take time off. If he's still wanting you after you come back home to visit, then date him, but not make it exclusive. Make him earn your trust back.
Good luck with him and at College!
2006-06-12 03:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're leaving for college, go ahead and break up. You'll be suprised how many people you'll meet in college, and having someone somewhere else can prevent you from meeting a great guy in college!
2006-06-12 03:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Gavind R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you think he did made you cry, then you have feelings for him. Check everything out before you make your decision. If he is cheating leave him. If not, well, that's up to you.
2006-06-12 03:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by vzhnri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave for now, If your heading for college chances are you will have a lot to keep you busy. If it's meant to be then eventually it will be.
2006-06-12 03:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by Karen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. if you can't trust him when you living close to one another, just think what it'll be like when you go a way to college.
2006-06-12 03:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Ted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋