i have bipolar and would like to hear from people trying to cope with the day to day thingsin life?

Question

i have to boys and im a seperated mum who is on her own with no family around and i really do mean alone. and trying to cope with being alone when my kids go see there dad. and having bipolar is very hard for me at the moment. i have had it a few years now. but when im on a downer its so hard and i would like to hear from others that are going threw the same thing. and if they have any good tips to help me threw the babd times... plzzz

i would like to mention i am on medication for this biplor.

Answer 1

i have bi-polar and take depkote for it it's used for people with mental depresstion and in some cases those with bi-polar you may want to discuss with your phyiscian if this could be an option for you

Answer 2

My best friend (he's a guy - me female) has bipolar and I've gone through all of his ups and downs with him for the past few years. He was on medication for a while but I think they were giving him TOO much so he stopped. I told him I thought it would be a good idea and get checked and maybe go back on something - he doesn't have insurance (like a lot of us) so he can't get help right now. I don't know that he'll do it or not but I've asked a lot of bipolar questions because of him - I want to be educated in order to help him. The biggest response I got was bipolar needs medication. You didn't say if you were on any so I am assuming you are not. Your situation is rough too - my heart goes out to you. Just keep on trying to remind yourself that you have two children who need you. Keep your chin up. I've gone through severe depression recently but am not bipolar - but I know what the "down" truly feels like. Mine is all financial right now and once that is fixed (if it's fixable at this point), my issues will be over - at least until the next thing comes up. I am constantly told that life is full of bumps in the road - we just have to figure out how to get over them. Maybe "they" are right but it's still very difficult. I'm sorry you're feeling so bad right now. I hope you can get some medication soon. I'm told that it really does help with bipolar. Bipolar is a serious but quite common problem. Hang in there!!

Answer 3

I think it's extremely important that you see a doctor to be put on some mood regulating meds asap, assuming that you are not currently doing so. It's seriously the best thing you can do for yourself and your boys.
My father was bipolar, my ex-husband is bipolar and my current live in boyfriend of 3 years is bipolar. My father & my ex were sort of in a state of denial about even having it and were obviously opposed to taking any meds at all. I can tell you firsthand that even though THEY may have thought they were 'dealing' with it well, they were absolutely not. It was very similar to being on a roller coaster, blindfolded, handcuffed to the seat and not ever being allowed to get off of the ride.
My boyfriend is on the opposite side of the spectrum. He realized what his mood swings were doing to his family, my family and our relationship. And he decided to do what was best for everyone, though it was hard for him to 'give in'... he started taking lithium. It has helped and continues to help us all, especially him. He's no longer at the mercy of the bipolar highs & lows- he's much more even keel and able to plan things better, complete more projects and feel better physically & mentally.
Bipolar is NOT an easy thing to deal with, for you or for your family. But I'm obviously a strong believer that it doesn't have to be any harder than it already is- and that by taking the meds, it helps 'even the playing field' for you. I'm sure your situation is hard enough to deal with, do what you can to take back a little control in your life.
Good luck in whatever you choose to do and remember that it is a 'disorder' and CAN be dealt with; there is nothing wrong with you, as a person, even when you're down- sometimes it helps to be reminded of that.

Answer 4

Make sure you take your medications. If you are going through depression when your boys go to visit their dad, talk to your therepist about possibly getting on anti-depressants also. For a lot of bipolar patients, a mood stabalizer isn't enough. Also, try to keep yourself busy. Go catch a movie, give yourself a home spa treatment (luxurious bubble bath, pedicure, amnicure, facial), read that book you've been wanting to read, join a group, go out with friends. The possibilities are endless. Just think of something you would want to do, and go after it. Good luck!

Answer 5

I am also bipolar and in the stages of letting go of my guilt and denial and learning to accept my affliction for what it is. I find comfort in knowing I am not alone in this struggle. I take a proactive approach towards understanding it all. I research endlessly on the internet seeking peoples stories and finding inspiration within them. I find comfort in knowing that when the downs come there are people in a worse situation (even if it doesn't seem that way at the time)
The stereotypical stigmas associated with this is alive and well in my world of coworkers and family. They don't have a clue of what it is that I am caught up in. I work hard at simplifying my life to avoid the overwhelming stress and frusatration that the smallest thing can bring on when I am at either extreme of the spectrum.
I hate the idea of having to find sanity in the bottom of bottles of prescription pills, but that is a reality I will also have to accept. I am currently taking a combination of lamictal and seroquel. They are working very well for me. Ativan knocks me down when I am too far up.
My ups are no longer all detached and delusional or scary.. and my downs are much more tolerable. The range in moods is amazing to me and I am not at all surprised with how difficult it must be for anyone normal to try and relate to any of it. I try to seperate myself from my illness and constantly evaluate my actions.. Is this me making the decision or the illness? Anyone that is bipolar knows that there are 2 seperate sides of their mental being caught in a power struggle at all times.
I isolate myself from people and situations that instigate my emotions to the point of being beyond my control. I take away the fuel that feeds the illness. When I am depressed I slow everything down and take very small steps with my thoughts and actions. I think things through, and focus on getting through small things one by one.. I organize my life accordingly. I set the alarm early so I can get away with hitting the snooze button a couple times before getting up for work... things like that. when I want to just curl up into the smallest ball and become invisible.. I force myself to do the opposite.. I take a walk out through the woods.. find inspiration in one small thing at a time.. like the way a squirrel hops through the trees.. the chirps of the birds.. the smell of the landscape.. I force myself to acknowledge that optimism in life does exist beyond the darkness in my soul.
the medication is the answer for me.. and knowing where I am on the spectrum.. charting my moods and finding a connection with them and what is happening in my life. Knowledge is power. And in power there is hope.
Good luck with it.. send me an email if you want to chat or need someone that understands to lend an ear or voice of encouragement.
particleman11876@yahoo

Answer 6

See below site to see what bipolar on 3 meds did . Even if you can't do his diet try to eat more like him. Then click on "a new religion" and read that to see latest research on psychology.

Answer 7

I TOO AM BIPOLAR.are you on meds for it?they do help.if so talk to you doctor and tell him about your problems ,maybe he needs to up your dosage.also i am not claiming to be the best christian in the world, but going to church can help!it makes you feel better about yourself and you can find people that will help you with you bad times and kids there!also it gets you out and about for a while. i find its better to be around people than to be sitting around worrying and have that chance for me to screw up!

Answer 8

Cyndi S had a great answer.I wish I could have worded it that way.