She is a born again Christian and has been in a relationship with a lifetime Christian guy for about 4 months. Already they are planning their wedding for next Feb. She has had sex before and he has not. He is a nice guy but it seems like there are major control issues in their relationship. She wants him to leave his church because she won't leave hers and he is dictating who she should have in her bridal party. It just doesn't seem like a healthy balance. I have expressed my concerns earlier but don't want to stick my nose in too far. They seem to be rushing mainly due to the no sex before marriage issue but the consequence of not getting to know him better may end in a miserable marriage or divorce which would mean getting kicked out of her church. I am happy for her but I worry she's rushing for the wrong reasons. Any thoughts?
2006-06-12 02:21:02 · 10 answers · asked by sticky 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, maybe all you can do is pray for her, but if she will listen to reason you may be able to help her. For example, no one told me about all the emotional pain that a marriage not blessed by God could give. After having 2 marraiges in that conditions I have learned to try to put all my efforts in loving God with my whole heart, mind, soul, and strength, and wait on God for a mate in this universe.
Honestly they both sound a little immature and only time and experiences and living in bible principles can cure that.
As far as getting kicked out of a church because of separation or divorce, that church is not holding to the bible for its standards.
It is better to marry than be inflamed with passion, but those who marry will have tribulation in the flesh, says the good book. 1Cor.7:28. Best wishes whatever decision they make.
2006-06-12 02:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by tina 3 · 11⤊ 5⤋
My sister-in-law & her husband attend different churches. They get along very well & seem to be happy. There have,however, been problems concerning children. They both want their future kids to attend their church. So there are issues.
No one should have to choose a different denomination or religion for the sake of marriage. God should always come first. However,this is a decision they will have to make on their own.
2006-06-12 09:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he leave his church? And men have every right to help pick things out for the wedding. For years weddings has been 100% controlled by females, let men have their fun. The only reason I say that is because he might have a reason to dislike some of the bride's maids.
2006-06-12 09:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens sooo much its ridiculous.
you know what? you cannot do anything but pray. Do not confront her until you get the "ok" from God. if He gives u a big "NO" then leave them be and just pray for the situation. if the marriage is definately going ahead, u cannot interfere with there free will, but u CAN pray for there future, for conviction and change, for softening to each others needs and being more like Jesus. Help your friend by just being there for her, and if she asks you about the relationship (chances are, she will.) tell her the truth in honesty.
God can turn this around. or stop it if its not His will. Pray pray pray
2006-06-12 09:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it won't work for long.
Have you ever considered that this couple might NEED to go through the possibility of a messy marriage?
We learn best from our mistakes. Sometimes this is the way God teaches us.
Let go....sometimes doing nothing is often the best.
2006-06-12 09:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Spencer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why no sex before marriage is ridiculous. YOu just can't base a lifetime sexual partnership without sex. It makes so sense.
2006-06-12 10:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk 2 her b4 her wedding after all ur just being a friend and giving her advice. i'd want my friend 2 talk 2 me if she thought i was rushing into marriage. wouldn't u
2006-06-12 09:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anytime someone rushes into marriage there are unforseen consequences.
your friend needs to choose which is more important to her, her new husband, or her church.
you can't choose for her though, just make her aware of the consequences of her actions.
2006-06-12 09:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by Aleks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant talk to her if she is in love, she will have to learn from her mistakes, unless there is a blow up before the wedding can happen.
2006-06-12 09:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them be, for good or evil it's their decision only.
2006-06-12 09:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by Love is the principle thing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋