Now, i have my faults, but it seems as if I am constantly cleaning up after her!! If she cooks, there is seasoning, and remains all over the kitchen....she come in from work and leaves her stuff all over the couch (not taking it to her room as i do...) She is VERY defensive, I do not want to start an arguement...but i am sick of being a maid in my own house!! i should NOT have to clean up after a 25 year old woman!!
2006-06-12 01:46:07 · 12 answers · asked by chocolate_krys2000 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would stop cleaning up after her! I had a roommate just like her once. I just completely stopped cleaning up after her. I warned my friends before they came over how much of a slob she was. If I cooked, I cooked around her mess and only cleaned up mine. Once she sees her own filth maybe she'll clean it up.
2006-06-12 01:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by mj216 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you that when a person cooks, someone should clean up the kitchen counter tops, stove tops, etc, and probably sweep the area as well. However, one should be generous in the time limit for post-meal clean up, and not expect people to spring up the moment the final morsel is swallowed. Some people like to relax a bit after a meal. And if she is cooking for both of you, perhaps she expects YOU to clean up?
But, assuming that clean up IS Roomie's job and she toddles off to bed without doing it, then what? Maybe you could take photos and hang large prints in the living room as a "joke"? Share these photos with her family and friends?
For the "sofa toss" habit, try getting a big basket for your living room and suggesting that Roomie dump her belongings into the basket. If she still tosses her things onto the sofa, give her 10 or 15 minutes to run to the bathroom, change into house slippers, and so on, then dump her stuff into the basket.
Without fighting about it, let her know that you like her as a friend but don't think you two are good as roommates and should be thinking of some other arrangement when your lease expires. It is not a matter of some particular level of neatness being 'right' or 'wrong' ... just a matter of needing agreement on what level will prevail in common areas.
2006-06-12 02:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a few slobs for roommates in college. No, don't clean up after her. And reasoning doesn't always work, as maybe you've found out. What helped me a lot was to take her stuff, no matter where she left it, and put it all on her bed. Then they can't come home and just crash. Maybe a little mean, but it worked.
2006-06-12 02:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by irishharpist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP CLEANING UP AFTER HER. Just clean enough so that you can do what you need to. Leave her stuff where it lays, leave the dishes where she does, and when she asks why the place is a mess, tell her exactly why. Because YOU are no longer responsible for HER messes.
Now, if she is cooking FOR you, then you should be cleaning the kitchen!
2006-06-12 06:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right. Ok...you aren't here to hear that, but I want to thank you for the reality check you just gave me. Even though I had my own cleaning business and was very much in demand, I am not even a recovering slob....and I laugh it off by saying I am an atypical Virgo. The truth is, no one comes in and it is surely a reflection of me. My tendency is to attend to other things before the most important are taken care of.Your query hit me like a ton of bricks! I simply haven't cared...and yes, it does bother me.
Thanks.
Oh....I think that you answered your own question, and in doing so...you woke me up.
2006-06-12 02:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Circle the crumbs and flecks and whatnot on the counters with a dry erase marker and draw arrows pointing to them.
I did that to a roommate in college. She actually did start cleaning up and we roomed together all the way through graduate school.
2006-06-12 03:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by prussianbluelady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm,,hey i wanted to tell you somethin,,Honestly i think you're a slob! I am sick and tired of cleaning up after you i am sorry but i am not your mother so stop being a slob or am sorry to tell you that am goin to find another roommate!
2006-06-12 01:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Kath 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Look [roommate], I have never seen any initiative on your part to clean up your stuff. As of right now, if I find it laying around I will throw it away; it's laying on my floor, it's mine. If you leave junk in the kitchen, it goes on your bed. If you clean up after yourself, you will not have to even worry about it. If you don't like it, leave." Easy as pie!
2006-06-12 06:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by hh4pres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even i stay at a hostel n shared rooms fr a long time
da best trick dat worked for me is
weneve i found my roomie's things on my bed or anything i gave her a fair warning 1st
da second time i simply threw her stuf on da floor
n da third time right out of the window
trust me.. i never had to complain again.
she moved out widin a month!
2006-06-12 01:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're angry enough....so tell her straight. Failing that, change the locks.
2006-06-12 01:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋