Anyone ever had their pet die?

Question

My dog Dutchess was put down a few weeks back. She was going to have surgery hopefully for something. But her kidney's were ****** so she couldn't go through with it. I miss her alot. And i blame my self for what has happend.I watched her die. She died on MY lap. I felt her last heart beat and i saw her last breath. I didn't protect her. I feel horrible.

Answer 1

a i had my pet die...more then 1...a cat and a chinchilla. i was really sad and i know i cant replace them with another 1, but i got new ones anyway, and they keep me company, they make me feel better. u should try it.

Answer 2

I'm sorry about your loss. See, it happens to the best of them. I can still remember my dog bandit who I grew up with during childhood and he died when I was 21. Sad sad. I was in the Marines at the time. Later on, I went to japan and found this runt cat, it was a chinchillan persian, pure white, and I called her Honey. I'm not much of a cat person but this one was different. This cat was a better friend then my dog. I raised it from when she was 3 weeks old, I fed her honey to keep her alive and milk. I always remember the best things about it, like how she was a great alarm clock at 530 in the morning and that she would be waiting by the door for me to come home.

The only thing is that my girlfriend in a frantic fit left the door open to the back yard and there was a hole that went underneath the fence. Well, she got out and ran away. The bad thing is that there are a lot of hungry coyotes where I live and a lot of rattle snakes. I was out in the brush looking for her and almost got bitten by one. Well to end this, I don't talk to the girlfriend anymore. We broke up 3 months after that. Not that I blamed her, but to me, that was the only cat in this world that I liked. And the other killer of it, the cat wasn't even a year old. It was a crock.

Answer 3

I know losing a pet isn't easy. You need to look at it this way. How was her quality of life? Did she seem happy? Was she up to doing her usual routine? Was she slowing down? I know you probably feel guilty for not doing everything you could have, but don't. I know some people think that euthanasia is horrible. It was the kindest thing that you could do for her to end her suffering. Look what humans go through, animals can't say what they feel you just judge by there actions.Just know that you were there for her in her final moments. This may sound morbid but in your lap was probably where she most preferred to be. Know that for all the times she was there for you bringing you joy and love you were there for her showing your love. It is never easy and you will miss her like hell, but as time passes the grief lessens and you remember the fun times or the silly things she would do. When you are ready to have another pet in your life go to your local animal shelter and give a dog or cat a second chance.

Answer 4

It's not your fault! You have to keep telling yourself that at least she was with the person she loved the most in her last minutes. Her quality of life is what's most important, and now you know she's not in pain anymore.

I lost my golden retriever, Penny, last November. It was quite a shocker, as she was only six years old. She had cancer all throughout her body. We had no idea at first, because she was on a steroid for allergies that apparently kept the cancer at bay. Well we stopped the Benedryl, and several weeks later, she kept vomiting and having diarrhea all over the house, which was not like her, because she was so well trained.

When I found out the cancer had spread through her body when I took her off the steroid, I felt guilty, too. I felt that if I had kept her on the medication, it wouldn't have happened. My vet and my husband made me realize that the medicine was just prolonging the inevitable, and it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. If I had stopped the medication any later than I had, we would've lost her right around Christmas time.

Remember that it's not your fault, and she's not in pain anymore.

Answer 5

Feeling bad when a beloved pet dies is only natural. Guilt and negative feelings are all part of the grieving process. I've had one dog die from the parvo virus and more from old age. My golden died eleven years ago and I still miss him. The Rainbow Bridge (submitted by another participant) is such a lovely poem and it still brings tears to my eyes when I think of it and my Buddy. Sit back and remember all of the good times you've had with Dutchess. Eventually it's gets easier but you never really forget the love you had for her!

Answer 6

I know what you are going through I have had many dogs in my life most of them lived a long and happy life before passing away. However I also have had dogs who have died in my arms or had to be put to sleep, I always held them when this had to be done by the vet just to let them know I was there. There is absolutely no reason for you to feel guilty you obviously loved your dog very much and did all you could for her. And you were there for her when she died. Just try to remember all the good times you had with her and eventually the pain your in right now will ease.

Answer 7

I had my Springer put down 7 years ago. It hurt like nothing every hurt before. She had developed paralysis in her back legs. The surgery was going to cost me 3000 and then it may or may not work. I started to get her a doggy wheel chair but I decided I was being selfish by hanging on to her. I do know your pain and it will eventually go away. I am now to the point where I am considering getting another dog.
You will feel the same way eventually.You can't blame yourself, dog's systems are so delicate.

Answer 8

I'm over the hill old and I've had to put a number of pets down.
I promise you, it never get easier. Unfortunately vets love to make you feel terrible for not spending a lot of money to attempt to save your animals life but, the simple truth is,is that rarely happens. Your animal didn't complain of a pain or a lump or of anything for that matter.It was only when a problem of such a magnitude to be unable to be ignored any longer is occurring that you take them to a vet. Unfortunately by than,usually the worst is all that's left.
I'm told pets have no conception of death,only we humans have that unfortunate realization and fear.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. It never get's easier. Your agony of those last moments you shared with her will eventually pass into softer and kinda memories. An inner clock knows when. You own emotions and intelligence will do it for you.

Answer 9

This has happened to me many time as I am an old lady and I have raised many dogs and cats. All we can do is our best for them, love them feed them try to keep them safe and healthy. When an animal has kidney failure there is no hope it is best just to put them down so they don't suffer. There was nothing you could do, so don't blame yourself. It is natural to feel guilty we always wonder if we could have done something. Take it from an old hand, you did the best you could and you were there with him I sure that was a comfort to him.

Answer 10

Oh honey, I am SO sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. We had to put down our Golden Retriever, Murphy, 2 years ago. We have since adopted 2 more Goldens from Rescue Groups and have given them a second chance at a happy life.

Maybe this will help you ;

The Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Answer 11

Hello there, Don't feel like its your fault every dog has to leave us sometime.I lost my male rottie of 5 years to blastomicosis a disease from the ground that festers in the lungs and acts like pneumonia and we thought it was fertilizer poising. NOT! we treated him for the wrong thing and rushed him to the vet 3 days later where he was given meds for the disease but it was too late. it's very hard to lose your friend or kid (your dog) for that matter they are a big part of you. I also have another rottie that is 10 and she has developed bone cancer in her left front leg its been 5 months now with a expectancy of 6 and soon I will have to go through it again. But this time I have to put her down and it will be in my arms. Just remember they are watching you from above and they know you gave them the best life possible! Don't beat yourself up! My condolences.