when i got involved with my guy, my friends told me how i'd regret it because he has a reputation of 'breaking hearts' and having short flings. According to them all he was after was sex and if he doesn't get it, he'll just lose interest.
i'm in my final year at high school, it's been six months, nothing big has happened, he's never forced me into doing ne thing. He's always sweet, he works hard, i can say ne thing to him, tell him ne thing. He is still very interested in me. His friends tell me he's different around me. My friends still think i'm abit of an idiot to fall for him.
I know i should go with my own feelings, but these rumours keep finding themselves ebbing their way into the deeper parts of my mind. I've told him about them, he just tells me do what i think is right. He doesn't defend himself either.
i don't know what to expect from him anymore, or if i'm just being paranoid. i want to believe he's genuine, but i also don't want to get hurt. what do i do?
2006-06-12 00:15:03 · 14 answers · asked by thatgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I presume that your involvement with this guy is quite deep to the extent that you would get hurt if you lose him. If you don't want to get hurt, don't mind what your friends tell you about him, for if you do, it will affect your relationship with him which could make him walk out of your life. By then you would get hurt but it would be because of your own doing. Why not take the risk of believing that he really loves you? Show him the best you could give him. Give him your all out trust and support all the time.
Whether they were telling you the truth about him as he was before you get involved with him or not, his love for you would make him stick to you because your love could have changed him to be a better person.
He was right when he said that you should do what is right and not what your friends want you to do. You might lose someone who really loves you along the process and this will be the biggest regret that you will have in your life. Live to the present. Believe in your heart that if you are meant for each other, your love will thrive and withstand the test of time. Just love him sincerely. Show him that you really do and rest will be history. Smile.
2006-06-12 00:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're friends are getting you worried. Is there anything he did to get you suspicious? Unless he has forced you into something u didnt want, or something worse, stay with him. Maybe he's trying to be someone different and better just becuase he's with you[and thats a good thing]. When ur friends say that he broke other girls' hearts, its because he wasnt interested in them. But according to his friends, he's into, so theres nothing to worry about. If you leave him because your friends told you to, then YOU would be known as the heart breaker., not him, and he wont forgive you for that...
2006-06-12 00:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by ♥PurePoison♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have any of your mates ever been interested in him? If they have, then they are jealous and just want you to be in the same boat as them. If they haven't, talk to your guy bout it and see how he feels bout the situation, ask him if he has broken any body's heart (in passing, dont be too full on) and see if there were good reasons for him to break it off. Your friends might be mates with one of the exgirls and are taking their sides.
It's a bit of a musty issue, why dont you ask a sister or another female relative what they think, they might have better advice then you think...
2006-06-12 00:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Madza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The suspicions comes from your friends... what they heard, what they say, what they think. He may not defend himself because he knows what your friends are saying and more than likely expects you to break up with him. Remember, they're not the ones dating him, you are and from the sound of things, he hasn't done anything to you to cause you suspicion.
2006-06-12 00:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let things go slow. You can't always believe what you hear (from friends) After time you should be able to tell, yourself. People can change when they really like someone.
2006-06-12 00:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by skeeta623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people may be jealous. If it has been that long and he hasn't pressured you to do anything, he may feel something different for you. As far as him not defending himself, he might feel like he shouldn't have too because actions speak louder than words.
2006-06-12 00:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by caramel_sundae1077 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't noticed anything odd with him, I say go along with the relationship. Rumors could be just rumors, and people can also change. Good luck to you!
2006-06-12 00:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by prettypixie1997 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to believe him, do so. You can't go by what everyone else says. He knows how he's been, so if he's not doing anything wrong with you just hang in there.
2006-06-12 00:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he fell in love with you and matured. He probaly realized that what he was doing before wouldn't work with a girl he was in love with and knew better than keep up his bad ways.
2006-06-12 00:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he really likes u so he has changed if his friends has even noticed, just go with ur heart babagal and dont sleep with him yet, ur girlfriends might be jealous becos the guy didnt ask them out.
2006-06-12 00:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋