God has touched our family in a big way...yet my husband and I cannot agree on the same church. ADVICE??

Answer 1

You can do what my grandparents did, they were of different religions, so they both chose another religion which they both converted to.

Your religion really does not matter as long as you believe in it, and live by it!

Answer 2

Try diffrent churches. First discuss what is important to each of you to have in a church home. Big or small, religious doctirine, whats important in a pastor, how involved you want to be, and what you need to get from it. Solving those issues, reaching a compromise you can live with. Lets say he likes a big, loud church, and you would rather have a small congregation you could get to know, seek out a church that offers services with small Sunday school groups. He gets the big church, you get the small one on one fellowship.

If your religion is the same, it should take a little time, and some trial and error before you find one you are both happy in, but it should happen. If you are of two diffrent religions, it will be much harder.

Wish you the best.

Answer 3

This is the reason that God is Divine and Perfect while we, including you and your spouse are only Human, with human preferences and prejudices.

Why not rotate between the 2 churches? If you are referring to 2 different Christian denominations, I would say that this complicates the matter slightly more since the communities and group sessions will be different. Another challenge would be which church and faith will your children follow/attend?

My wife was a Methodist and I a Catholic before she went through a 3 year process to learn about my faith-practice and joined my Church. The choice (and the relationship) could have turned out different but for our patience for each other and willingness to give ample allowance for differences in the practices, teachings and community in each Church. I still can't forget how it took me 3 days to explain things to her after she freaked out because she saw some old folks bending down to touch the big toe of a 2m-tall statue of St. Peter outside one of our Catholic churches - man, it was major damage control on her impression, understanding and our relationship at that point in time.

I have another close acquaintance who is a Catholic and in fact had spent 5 years in a seminary before deciding to lead life as a lay person. He married a devout Hindu, had 2 different religious celebrations for their wedding and the couple are bringing up a beautiful daughter by exposing her to both faith! They intend to let the daughter decide which faith to follow (if any) when she comes of age. I was very impressed as such arrangements between a married couple, living harmoniously under the same roof cannot be taken for granted.

Answer 4

Belief is god should be just that. If you both believe in god, you just do. Choosing a religion or church is just plain ridiculous...believing in god is believing in the bible without additions since the bible forbids any other books to follow.

Growing up, I attended many different types of churches and it was virtually the same...they believed in god and preached it. If you cannot choose a certain church, you should keep god at home with you and your children and equip your children to chose their own path. If you insist on attending church, switch off and let your children decide what is right for them when they are grown.

Simply put, you cannot make your church more significant than your spouses...you are equals who believe in god.

Answer 5

Well, in old days wives were taught that they should follow their husbands. He was said to be the head. But I think that you all should both pray about it and then do the pros and cons of each church. After that you all should attend the one that has the most pros. And mostly it should be which church feeds you both spiritually. But most likely God will guide you both to a church that will give you what you need.

Answer 6

Most theologians will tell you the old ways are dead and gone; but we can still use the best of the older times. They will also agree that the couple should either choose one of the two religions, or go to an alternate one. Love is the defining factor; there is no better love than that of a couple who has met each other mentally, spiritually, and physically. By the way; this will also help the children.
But the factor that has been left out the most is prayer. I believe prayer changes things. I always pray for those who trespass against me since I have been diagnosed with MD. But even others who I don't even know, I will pray for them. Guess what, the people who attack me are actually lacking in education. But my four PhD theologians should be able to assist you; that is why I called each of them.
God bless you

Answer 7

Don't go.... have prayer and comuntion and what not in your own home.... just spend sunday with god at home.

The best christains I know don't ever go to church and don't even own a bible. But there faith and devotion to god is better than any other I know.

And Jesus rather spoke out agenst large churches and there pratcices.


However the bible says a woman should do what ever there husband says, so acording to it if he whats to go to a church you go to the one he whants to rather you like it or not.

Answer 8

If you have to argue about the churches then you dont know what God is!!! Its like forgetting the soup and arguing about the Bowl!!! Do u think God is dependent upon Churches and temples?? If you want to be close to God, then look within... Make it your goal to make at least one person happy everyday...... smile....... be happy.... be kind to others........ help the needy........ respect the elders... Thats Goodness and it leads you to God!!

Answer 9

Both go to your separate fellowships.
Or, make a list of the top 5 reasons you both like your own fellowship; compare lists & keep what is identical on both lists. Then agree to find yet ANOTHER fellowship that has these qualities you agreed on.

Answer 10

Does the difference in church mean difference in belief? (This may be a stupid question!!) but I am not sure what the problem is since you both believe in God!

May Allah guide you both to the right path.

Answer 11

Start your own church. You and/or your husband can become ordained and you can start holding services in your back yard or the park or rent a place out.