**** my boyfriend has a kid that he failed to tell me about
- i saw this pic of him-dis gurl-and a baby
-immediately i had to find out if it was his or a niece,nephew..ect.
* so i asked his brother.
a week later he told me that he had a kid--- i told him i knew, but i had to find out for myself, and im okay with u having one, i still love you and nothing is gonna change that.
- he asked how i knew ... and i told him
* he got mad at me cuz i didnt confront him about it, but he was at work at the moment, and i had to find out that minute.
AM I WRONG
2006-06-11 21:28:44 · 13 answers · asked by azn_senorita_4_ever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No... your not wrong... He just was angry because you found out about it... I know cause I was him at one point in my life... I don't believe he is ashamed of his child. it just he likes you and he probaly wanted the right time to tell.. you... And you found out with out him telling you... So he tripped ...because he did'nt know what your reacation would be... Guys always wanna know what to expect..... He will get over it.. quick... trust me.,.. now that he knows your cool with. it... So don't worry.. sister.... it will be all right... =)
2006-06-11 21:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that doesn't sound good, you both had something going on that went outside the bounds of TRUST that your relationship should have. How long have you two been together? He didn't tell you he had a kid for how long into the relationship? If you waited to ask, wouldn't your boyfriend have told you he had a kid? AM I WRONG isn't the question you should be asking.
2006-06-12 21:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Meowmixtape 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In part I must say you were wrong.... you should have waited until you could ask him and he was able to answer, not when he was at work....... he might have wanted to tell you but could not find the right words at the time...... so yes you were wrong..... and maybe there was a valid reason...... so I think you need to talk to him and find out why he did not tell ya...... next time may i suggest you wait to ask him ?? God bless
2006-06-12 04:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong! He is feeling guilty and a little embarrassed because he got caught up in his own indiscretions! Yes you should have confronted him and not someone else but it was an honest mistake on your behalf done in an emotionally taxing time whereas he lied knowingly and with perfect intent to deceive you! Don't allow him to make you feel guilty as you are not at fault!!!
2006-06-12 04:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by DEE 22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong, however, I would have done it a little different. I would have acted surprised when he told me about it, that way he would not have gotten mad. That's all hind-sight though. I still say that you did what you had to do at the time which is all that matters.
BTW... Welcome home!!! Are you a soldier?
2006-06-12 07:33:46 · answer #5 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UR NOT WRONG AT ALL AND HE HAS DONE MUCH MORE AND U SHOULD BE THE ONE THAT IS MAD RIGHT NOW BECAUSE HE SHOULD HAVE TOLD U THAT HE HAD A KID THE TIME U AND HIM STARTED GOING OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-12 04:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by fairy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course your not wrong, and he should be thankful your still with him. He keot it from you remember, you've done nothing wrong, so he has NO reason whatsoever to be mad at you!!!
2006-06-12 04:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by SaZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in his position.....you find out that he was snooping around in your past instead of asking you directly.....kinda sneaky and just a teansy bit dishonest. Don't you think?
2006-06-12 04:32:48 · answer #8 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe but let him know that he was wrong in first place for not telling u. and make him feel bad about how good u were to be ok with it ;]
2006-06-12 04:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF THIS CAME UP BEFORE AND HE LIED YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO FIND OUT ANY WAY YOU CAN,
2006-06-12 05:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by romadgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋