My mum is my aunty her and her hubby adpot me five years ago.
Well when my parents slpit up my mum said it was my fault. This what happen when my mum went for a holiday for two weeks she let me use her mobile phone so when I use it i saw some message in her phone this man send her love things about her so I went and told my dad about it and he said he already knew about it that mum is having an affair with his friend people are talking about.
So mum was always talking behind my dad's back to me she say mean staff about him she say that my dad is not my dad is her husband that why she says staff about him to me.So I told him everything that se say about him but anyway dad forgave her she did before and again but when she wasn't honest about thier business she stole some money after dad found out about the affair and forgave dad told her to leave us alone with the my two brothers and sister.
2006-06-11 20:44:44 · 7 answers · asked by Molly B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no honey, it isn't your fault at all. The things your mom did have nothing to do with you, she caused the problems in her relationship with her husband- it wasn't you. you are too young to have to deal with all this stuff, talking with an adult about these things is a good idea.
2006-06-11 20:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by hilarywow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing even though it seems bad. I would have done the same thing if I were in your shoes. She should have erase the messages if she didn't want you to know she was having an affair so maybe she was just using you as her escape goat to get out of her marriage. This way she thinks she can have a clear conscience about leaving. She's very selfish and you shouldn't blame yourself.
2006-06-11 21:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't your fault...
Your mother was having an affair and she got caught, if it weren't for the event with the mobile phone, it would have been revealed at some later time.
She also placed the mobile phone in your hands.
Don't blame yourself.
Rather than taking responsibility for her own actions, she points the finger at you, to alieviate her own guilt.
I'm sorry to hear about this. Please seek counselling if you feel any guilt over this.
You did the right thing.
2006-06-11 20:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by chia_vampire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is it your fault.
It sounds like it is the best thing for your dad not to be with her anymore.
But anyway, shes just ashamed that she got caught- and so she should. Its pretty low of her to blame you- she needs to take responsibilty for her own mistakes.
I cant imagine how much you must be hurting, dont believe for one second that you had anything to do with your parents splitting up.
2006-06-11 23:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by its_just_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not...... did you suggest she should go round dropping her knickers for every guy she meets?
If she says anything like that to you ever again, just come back at her by telling her bluntly "Hey, it's not my f***ing fault your a dishonest sl*t, who goes round dropping ur knickers for every guy you meet, and got busted"
2006-06-11 21:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I simple words without all that typing as most everyone does it NO its not your fault girl
2006-06-18 18:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it wasn't ur fault....Sorry to say but ur mother was not sincere with ur father...
But u should keep smiling...Such things happen in life...!!!
Take care,
Thanks,
Sumiya.
2006-06-11 23:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋