7 yr old wont go to school?

Question

my 7 yr old nephew refuses to go to school,iv tryed everything fro grounding him,stopped all treats and now iv resorted to telling him ill go to prision if he doesnt go but hes not bothered,the school are showing concern now as we his mum is under social services anyway,what can we do please help

Answer 1

its bad..iundersatnd..tell him thatu get candys in school and threre are pokemons and beyblayds..and all that...he will get attracted for sure.....

Answer 2

Find out what the reason is that he doesn't want to go.
You can't fix the problem unless you know why.
Then sit him down with principal, teacher, and counselor and tell him that he doesn't have a choice in the matter. He has to go to school and that all of you have come together because you love him and want him to be happy in school.
Come up with a plan as to how to help him.
Tell him what his expectations are in the morning.getting ready etc. If he follows through on the expectations without whining or bellyaching give him a small reward. Not saying you should bribe him............but something is seriously wrong if he doesn't want to go: bullying, teacher is not nice, being teased...something and you want him to like school and realize that it is his responsibility to go. Don't ever let him stay home.
Isn't it summer break now?

Answer 3

there must be an underlying reason as to why this child would hate school so much........ I suggest very strongly that you seek professional help....... maybe something has happened that you are unaware of........ here is an idea to get you started....... kids like to draw, so get some large paper and colors...... kinda in a nonchalant kind of way ask him to draw pictures of a school, a teacher, a friend he knows from school, a friend he knows around the neighborhood, his fav. relative, pet, then go maybe to the mean stuff...... mean ppl at school, pet, relative, friend in neighborhood, and anything else you can think of.... do this over a 3 or 4 day period, dont rush him....... dont say anything about the pictures other than how speacial or good he drew....... then tuck them away and save them till you can find a prof. that can help you with this poor baby, these pictures will give you , maybe, a starting point to find out what is wrong......ohh, also include him drawing pictures of MOM and even DAD and urselves........ God bless

Answer 4

First you need to find out why he is not wanting to go. Is he being picked on or left out? Is he having trouble with his work? If non of this is a factor then it may be just laziness. If that is the case introduce him to a homeless person or do something to show him what can become of him if he doesn't get an education. If that doesn't work you need to let him know who is in charge. He needs to learn to obey with out question. Show him where you work. Make him work. There are many different things you can do. I cant give you all the answeres. For each problem there are a million different answers. Each child is different and unique. If you do not have the time to learn how this child works then you are too buisy and "too buisy" for you child is unacceptable.

Answer 5

I suppose the first thing to do is find out WHY he doesn't want to go to school.... either because some little tw*t has been picking on him, or he just finds the place boring, or if he's been getting school dinners on any occasions he has gone they're bad enough to make horse manure look appetising.

My sister used to be like that when she was little.......... My Mum usually just resorted to carrying her down there whether she liked it or not (a bit like Basil Fawlty on Manuel in comedy "Fawlty Towers")....... making idle threats like you have never work unless you do something like this to remind them who's the boss.

Perhaps also make a deal with his pocket money after a week or two of being carried in...... like, say £1/$1 a day (or whatever your local currency is)........ but he only gets it on Saturday morning if he has completed a full week of school (unless he was sick enough to require a Doctor visit).

Answer 6

Try not to use force, children will listen if you have a good enough reason and if there is some benefit to them it's a plus. Talk to him about why he doesn't want to go. Is it because he is too shy or too scared? Maybe the children won't talk or play with him? If you are going to fib, at least tell him something positive like if you go to school, you will grow much taller. Otherwise, give him an incentive to go like for every day that he goes to school, give him something that he really likes.

Answer 7

Wow, he's a stubborn one! I wonder what his reasons are for not going to school?!?!

Maybe if there is a policeman that you trust or know personally, he could come round and have a few words with him - just to give him a gentle scare maybe?

There must be some reason why he doesn't want to go though - most kids like the social interaction. Perhaps he is being bullied or has a learning disability, or it could be something more sinister??

Answer 8

He may be rebelling b/c of what has been happening with his mother. Unfortunately forcing him to face the world isn't going to work, he is satisfied being closed up and doing nothing. Maybe he is afraid of what might happen, or what might become of him? At such young ages children are affected greatly by what is going on in their lives, and if it is not rectified their future is at stake. As hard as it sounds, why don't you consider taking him to a counselor or a psychologist? Maybe they may be able to help him open up, b/c I am sure there are alot of things that he has hidden inside of him waiting to come out. This is his life, and I am sure you don't want him to take the wrong path later on, especially from psychological trauma due to current events?

Good Luck!

Answer 9

Check to see if any kids are picking on him or if he has to much trouble learning that he doesnt want to go.And if you find out theres nothing wrong at school then take him to his school and walk him to his class and make sure he stays there and after every week try going to his school's office and ask for an attendance report.

Answer 10

Haul his little 7 year old ass to school, deposit him in the classroom door and reward him if he does well the first or second day. As an adult caregiver, you must NOT let a child tell you what he is going to do when YOU are responsible for him, not he for you! Explain to him that everyone must work for a living and that "SCHOOL IS YOUR JOB"!

Answer 11

You need to have a good long talk with the boy and find out why he doesn't want to go to school. There maybe someone that is bullying him around and he doesn't know how to handle it. Talk with the school about the child's behavior maybe they can enlighten you.