I have two kids, one being 13 and one being 6. The 6 year old LOVES to ride on our shoulders, especially my wife and I. But lately, we have been making our 13 year old daughter carry him around on her shoulders, even though she doesnt like it. Is it fair that we make her?
2006-06-11 19:03:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, it is not. The 6 year old has legs, make him walk. Imagine how your 13 year old feels. You are putting your youngest childs wants ahead of hers. You 13 year old child is not a mule; Don't treat her like one.
2006-06-11 19:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by SportsFan 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A 6 year old is much too heavy for a 13 year old to carry around on her shoulders. Are you for real??
2006-06-11 19:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by dawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like carrying your son on your shoulders is a way that you and your wife bond with him. Encouraging your daughter to have a similar bond with your son is fine, but since she doesn't like it, perhaps this is not the bond that will work best between the two of them. Find another way for them to bond. Children bond with parents in different ways than they bond with their siblings. This difference is especially important so that your daughter doesn't feel like she is becoming his second mother. Let her be the big sister who talks to him about things he doesn't want to ask mom and dad.
When your son isn't around, talk to her about it. Let her know why you think it's important for her to carry him around and ask why she doesn't like it. It could be that he seems heavy for her size and it is actually painful - and I'm sure you don't want to hurt her! It could just be that she is rebelling against anything you make her do - if she is to enjoy something it can't be forced.
Find some time when the two of them can spend time together without either of you. You don't have to leave them completely unsupervised - ask her to play a game or read a book or make cookies with him while you and your wife spend some time alone in a different part of the house. For Halloween, send them trick-or-treating down the street together - she is old enough to know how to be safe and they can stay close enough for you to know the neighbors or watch from your house. You know them both, what would they enjoy doing alone together?
2006-06-11 19:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her learn to love her brother and have fun together.Pls understand that it is not easy being a 13 yr old (neither an adult or a child), thus she might not feel comfortable or respected when asked to do something against her will like carrying her 6 yr old brother on her shoulder.
2006-06-11 19:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! If she doesnt want to do it why would you force her? That is just a wonderful way to create problems between your children! Plus it probably isn't the best idea to have your 13 year old carrying half her weight on her shoulders.
2006-06-11 19:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by hilarywow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you read the part where you said, "MAKING our 13 year old"? That should be the answer to your question. She shouldn't be forced to give shoulder rides to her brother. Force her to clean her room, do chores, be home on time... but not play with her brother. All you'll end up doing is give her the impression that playing with her brother is a chore. Sometime down the road it'll just lead to sibling rivalry.
2006-06-11 19:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by visionssofaraway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off a six year old is to old to be riding on anyone's shoulders.Of course you shouldn't be making your 13 do this.Stop playing favorites and spoiling your 6 year old.Its time to start acting like responsible adults and parents.
2006-06-11 19:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by rachellynn200 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too old to be riding on shoulders any more. Tell the six year old that he/she is getting bigger and no one can carry on shoulders any more.
2006-06-12 00:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The younger child wants contact with the parent. The 13 year old is not the parent. Stot this foolisness. You an make the older kid hate the younger one.
2006-06-11 19:07:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bashful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh hell no. you are going to hurt your 13 year old's back and shoulders. that is too much weight for their growing, developing bodies.,
second, you did not have the first kid to be a slave to the second..
third, your 6 year old is getting to the age of needing to walk..getting to old to be on anyone's shoulders.
2006-06-11 19:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by smokes_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your 6 year old can walk...he is getting a little old to be carried around.
2006-06-11 19:07:16 · answer #11 · answered by asmul8ed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋