I am about to choose my job for the Army in a few days and I want to go into the Cavalry. This is a combat job and very dangerous but it is really what I want to do. My father did it before me and I am sure that this is what I want. How do I convince my wife and 12 year old son that it will be O.K. if I go to Iraq and maybe even get killed for them and my country?
2006-06-11 18:28:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I don't know if there is really a way to tell them where they won't get mad at you. But, they will learn in time to accept it, even if they don't agree with it. You have to do what your heart is telling you to do. They won't be so mad at you that they won't think about you every day, they'll still write, and await your arraival to come home. And in the event that you don't come home alive you have the gratitude of a greatful nation. Also, when in time your son grows up, he will come to realize that your sacrifice will undoubtably swell his shirt with pride that you thought enough of him, his momma, and this nation to fight and die (heaven forbid) for it. Parting off to war is NEVER easy. Never was, never will be. If it ever gets easy or 'not-a-big-deal' then we are in trouble. War is an ugly thing. A thing where innocent people get hurt and killed. It's one of the things that makes it be a thing to be avoided. But I also don't advocate the 'no war at any cost' camp. Thomas Jefferson said:"...those who will give up freedom for security, deserve neither." So, go and serve your country, and make your boy and wife proud. I was in the Navy for 4 years, and I honor ALL veterans from ALL wars, and peacetime. Even though I'm a verteran, and can't go back in now due to diabetes, I can still 'root for the home team.' Every job in wartime involves peril. From the Commander of Coalition forces to the lowly mess cook. To put yourself in harm's way on behalf of us here in the States, takes courage, selflessness, and pride. Be proud of what you do, and someday, they will be prouder of you, weather you return home to a hero's welcome, or a hero's funeral.
Good Luck, and God Bless you.
I will pray for ALL our troops, wherever they are!
2006-06-11 20:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Boy, this is a hard one. First off, when you became a parent, you took responsibility as a father, to take part in a family. If you take up another responsibility, make sure you have the first ones taken care of first. If you don't, you might be sending the impression of running away from things, even if that is not the case. If one is able to take up all responsibilites right, then things will go smoothly. There are alot of people who do not understand other people's worlds. That is just how it is. If it is strong enough in your heart, you will succeed in showing the truth in who you are and what you are doing, just as much as where you are going with it. But sometimes it takes some time. I wish you best of luck! -- Just remember: No one likes sadness. People tend to get attached to the things they love. Bring joy, much joy into the picture for heal and growth for the ones closest to you. Everything will be fine if you are truely following your heart.
2006-06-12 01:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jesse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every job is now a combat job.It doesn't matter if you are admin, medic, cook or combat engineer.They are all rding convoys and fighting the insurgents in Iraq and Afghanistan. My wife didn'y know I was hunting for IEDs and mines until my daughter casually mentioned it to her and she just freaked out. She thought engineers only built stuff and stayed in the rear.
If you want to be in the CAV, just do it and stay safe.Sit down and have a very long talk with your wife and son and tell them that evry job in Iraq and elsewhere doesn't guarantee safety. There are no front lines in this war.
2006-06-12 01:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by bulldog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm How do YOU think you can convince anyone you will be 100% safe? Think you have a secret none of the soldiers who have died had? You need to tell your wife and child you love them, that there is a risk involved, but you feel it is your duty. At least that is honest. Pretending nothing could happen is BS.
2006-06-12 01:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you never do is promise them you'll be ok, then your lying to them, and yourself. war is war no matter your job. All you can do is let them know that no matter what your job there is always a chance of you being called up for deployment and no matter your job there is always a chance of you having to go to the front lines. My hubby's MOS was 52 delta (generator repairs). He mainly stayed on post wile in Iraq but occasionally had to go to the front tine to retrieve broken down vehicles. All you can do is let them know that if you do have to go to the sand box is that you'll be as safe as possible over there and that honestly you hope you don't hove to go but its not your job that gets you sent there, its your unit.
You have got to remember, they are thinking of what it would be like to not have you in there lives while you are gone and God forbid what would it be like if they lost you. They dont want to loose you and they know why you are in the army but at the same time they dont want to loose you. for a military family when a soldier choosing to go to war its like they are choosing to put other people before there familys. Its not saying that you dont care for your familys, friends, and loved one we know its your jobs, were varry proud of you, we do understand, and we do support you all the way. We just dont want to see any of our loved ones in harm ways for any reason.
a military wife
2006-06-12 15:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Heather W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that if your family is so dead against it then you haven't the right to go. You have a family now: their opinions count. If you were single, of course do could do as you pleased, ALL the time. Now, a consensus must be reached. The votes are in: you lose.
2006-06-12 01:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would rather go down fighting as opposed to being blown up sitting behind the desk. That's why I chose infantry. Everyone's at risk over there, rear echelon moreso due to suicide bombers and such.
2006-06-12 01:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by xtowgrunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them about the plus points of the job as well as assure them that u as well as they will be safe and secure if u go for this job.
2006-06-16 13:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Halle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you really guarentee them you will be okay? You can't. I understand your side, but can you understand theirs? With all the death they see on the news, can you really blame them for being upset that you want to put yourself in that kind of danger? How do you explain to your family you love them, but that you want to risk your life for something they may or may not agree with.
2006-06-12 01:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wife, so I think it's probably what BOTH of you choose, but that's not for me to say. It's a great job choice though.
2006-06-12 09:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by djack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋