There is a girl I am dating. Its weird cause she was my best friends girl last year. They broke up and me and her went out a lot this year. I didnt really like her the other times we went out, but now we love eachother. But this year she had sex with my cousin, it wasnt when we were datin so I shoulden't be really mad I guess but she lied to me about it alot. And she about had sex with like 6 other people and I can't help but think she will cheat on me. When we are in person, I can tell her I trust her, and I do. But then when I'm not with her I don't know why, but I don't trust her anymore. But i do love her and everyone thinks we should keep going out. But I don't want to keep worrying about her like this all the time. Then her big sister let me read my gf's journal and found out she said I treat her bad so she could fins someone better. That was a while ago, but that made me mad and I know I treat her good. What should I do? Stay with her or break up with her? Thanks.
2006-06-11 18:21:47 · 12 answers · asked by irepcleveland 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Bring her to a swinger's party, f.u.c.k. her, let the other 20 people f.u.c.k. her badly, then ask her if she liked.
If she enjoyed, dump the s.l.u.t.!!!
2006-06-11 18:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Transgénico 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Hmm, well lets see, seems to me you don't actually trust her and although you do love her, she seems to of have hurt you by doing some of the stuff that she did. Now, voicing your concerns on the matter does say that you do care for her enough to be concerned about your relationship, but a girl who goes out with her ex boyfriends best friend isn't exactly the most respectable of them all. I don't know her and I am not about to try and judge the type of woman she is, but from what I gather you don't go out with your ex's best friend, it's just not done...I suppose you can probably see the chain happening when she slept with your cousin, seems like a sort of relation to my ex boyfriend sort of thing going on....see it? I mean if you love someone, you won't do that....getting drunk and sleeping with a guy you don't know is better than sleeping with someone your ex boyfriend knows farless his best friend or cousin!
If you think you treat her well, which I am not doubting b/c you seem like a nice guy to me, and she doesn't see that you are giving her all you got, then she clearly doesn't deserve you. Doesn't mean you are a bad guy or she is a bad girl, just that both you and her definition of what a relationship entails clashes and maybe yall aren't the perfect match afterall?
I mean if you think you do love her, and you want it to work, and you want to spend the rest of your life with her...why not give it a break, see what happens, see what she does..see how she reacts...b/c if your feelings are strong, and this is it....they won't change...and if her feelings and genuinely the same..it won't change either. BUT...I do predict she'll go sleeping around..she's done it before....and do you really want a girl who isn't committed to you? But is rather committed to hooking up with all the ppl you know and are close to?? Think about it...seems like a trend more than anything else to me...
Good luck..
2006-06-12 01:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from and I too go through that I call it confrontational trust, it is the trust you have only when you know where they are and when you dont you think about what and who they could be doing so I say find you some one who you can trust and dont have to bother about wondering about if they are lying or cheating so i say find you someone you do not have to worry so if that helped i wish you the best of luck
2006-06-12 01:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by not a user 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...I know what your going through for the most part. I am in love with my ex...Him and I split up and I ended up sleeping with someone else. Our friendship is now ruined because of something stupid. My opinion is if you really love her then let her go. If it is meant for you too to be in a gf/bf relationship then let it happen on its own. Try to be just friends. Maybe you can start trusting her again. Friends is better then not talking at all.
2006-06-12 01:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by itsmzbitch2u2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the bang and dump move. Shouldn't shock her since it sounds like she is the neighborhood bike anyways.
2006-06-12 01:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SAY YOU TRUST HER . I DON'T THINK YOU DO. IF YOU DID , YOU WOULDN'T WORRY ALL THE TIME . I DON'T THINK IT WILL WORK OUT FOR THE 2 OF YOU .I WOULD ALSO WORRY ABOUT THE BIG SISTER .
2006-06-12 01:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth it. The constant stress of worrying about what she's doing is not good.
2006-06-12 01:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Gavind R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DROP HER LIKE THE FREAKY GIRL SHE IS>>>SHE ENJOYS THAT STUFF AND HER REP WILL DRAG YOU DOWN WITH HER>HAVE SOME PRIDE IN YOURSELF.THERE ARE GREAT GALS OUT THERE!
2006-06-12 01:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by cmb1061 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with her. if you can't trust her and worry about her when she isn't there, then break up with her.
2006-06-12 01:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can never love someone with out trusthing that person.. move on.
2006-06-12 01:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by doreajean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break off
2006-06-12 01:24:18 · answer #11 · answered by mini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋