If we go for shopping we cant but buy new toys for him. After come back home he destroy it and start crying for a new one. If we do not go out for shopping, he try to make us convinced by crying to take him out to buy new toys. His favourite toys are insects, animals and car. If he see a new one he forgets the others he already has. Even the one he already has, wants a new of the same one. How to manage him? He is now 3 years and 8 months old.
2006-06-11 18:17:47 · 16 answers · asked by silkyocean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ignore him. Basically, by giving in and taking him to the store and/or buying him toys, you are reinforcing his behavior of crying and destroying toys. Don't let him convince you to do his bidding. If you keep spoiling him, he will become a spoiled brat. You have to let him know that such behavior won't be tolerated or reinforced. The best way not to reinforce such behavior is through ignoring him, so he realizes that by crying and destroying his toys, he won't get what he wants anymore. This may take up to a month or so.
2006-06-11 18:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by King Yellow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before shopping tell him this is not a toy day. Toys will not be purchased and if he cries or throws a fit there will be a onsequence. Have him earn a new toy once a month or whatever specified time you want. If he takes care of his toys ( you have to teach him how to be respectful of things) and if he doesn't throw temper tantrums then go out and buy him a toy on toy day.
2006-06-12 07:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the word NO. Be firm. It will be hard at first. But when he begins to see that you mean it, it will become easier. Is it only toys that he's this way? Because you need to be the parent with other ways and things as well. And since he forgets the toys he has, I would put those up for a time, and bring them back as new at a later time.
2006-06-12 01:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many parents faced the dilemma of if their child does not get what he or she wants, then he or she hates you. You have to set up boundaries and limits. Start with not giving in. Only reward your child with a toy, it something not given but rewarded.
Of course, he going to throw a temper tantrum, all kids are like that. Be firm and not give in. Buying a toy every time you go shopping, I would stopped that. He will only grow up not appreciating the value placed on the dollar and money that is earned. I would start with a firm "No." And if he wrecks his toys at home. Then take the toys out, until he earns them back with good behavior.
2006-06-12 01:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bri 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, just say no. Not only that, but stick to it even when he gets really annoying. If he gets bad enough, you could try taking all his toys away and make him "buy" them back one by one with good behavior. Not only would that teach him how to be good, but it'd also teach him that stuff ought to be earned.
One thing my mom did with me when I was a kid was red and black marks. When I was good I'd get a red mark, and when I was bad I'd get a black mark. (Or maybe it was the other way around, I forget.) She'd mark them up on a paper on the fridge where it was clearly visible. And when I got a certain number of red marks I'd get something good, and when I got a certain number of black marks I'd get a punishment of some sort. This method apparently worked well, since I was one of those kids you could take to someone's house and not be afraid I'd destroy all their fragile objects or drink their bleach or something. :P
2006-06-12 02:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by onyxflame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3 yr. old and he never acts like that you should get control now since he is still little you think that's bad just wait till he gets older. It sounds like he is a little spoiled. You should tell him "No" and maybe he will take better care of his toys once he realizes that he can't get a new one every time he breaks or loses it. If he crys so what it wont kill him he'll have to get over it who's the parent here.
2006-06-12 01:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By now, I'm sure you know he's spoiled. You also probably know that you need to be strong and say "no". Face it, don't deny that the problem isn't just simply managing him, but yourself too.
Try sending him to summer camp, if there's one for his age. Particularly ones that puts him out in the wild. Afterall, he likes animals and insects. If you constantly worry about him at camp, then obviously you need to work on yourself. While he's off at camp, it's a great opportunity to do such that...perhaps you need a vacation too.
And, talk with a professional (child counselor).
2006-06-12 01:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by LittleMuffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You try the sticker game with him. If he does not cry n ask for the toy u give him a sticker a day or in a week. This method is suggested by psycologists.
I think this will work
2006-06-12 01:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try doing new activities with him to get him interested in other things, eg. craft, oragami, a sport (something like swimming or soccer for young toddlers or kids). He'll then forget about buying toys. It'll also help develop his artistic or sporting skills.
2006-06-12 01:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by trishashastri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say NO! and stick to your guns. He has you well trained. Who is the parent him or you. He is spoiled rotton. You have to decide if you want to be a parent or not and if you do then you have to tell him no toys because you have broken them all. And when he wines and crys oop no x box. ooh more whining are you testing me ok no tv in your room and no videos keep testing? your going to be left grounded in your room with a mattress and five changes of clothes pal.
2006-06-12 01:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by xx_muggles_xx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋