I have been dating my b/f for almost a year. I found out not too long ago that a girl that he has known for awhile has been calling him and texting him alot. I have questioned him about this and he just tells me that they are friends, and nothing more. I really do not know the other girl at all, but yet, I do not trust her at all either!! What should I do? Should I just let it pass, or what?? Please help!! I am totally confused!!!
2006-06-11 17:55:28 · 19 answers · asked by Honeybee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best thing to do is follow your instincts. If you trust him, don't worry about it. If you don't, you need to confront him.
2006-06-11 17:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by mountaingirl_4_jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are at that "year" point in your relationship when you are worrying if he's bored with you and he may possibly be...(it works both ways, by the way.) The thing is that they may really be friends only. But how can you know? He may be a real butt and be playing you, but you just don't give enough information.Has he been "friends" with others like this? How long has he known this girl? I mean, did they go to kindergarten together or has he just recently met her? And does she know about you? If so, seems she may have her sights on your man, since she's disrespecting you. But if it is only innocent friendship, don't give ultimatums, he'll think you are too possessive.Tread carefully here.You don't want to drive him into an others' arms. On the other hand, if he turns out to have just met her , then he is also disrespecting you by having this "friendship".If it was so innocent, why can't he introduce you?Maybe you two could hit it off and be great friend.Good luck, but think before you act or speak. And keep your ear to the ground, so to speak.Thunder rumbles and is felt from below.(In your gut, honey, not your heart)
2006-06-12 01:13:30 · answer #2 · answered by cmb1061 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm..thats a bit hard. Why have you been with him for almost a year, yet have no trust in him?!? I know you said you dont trust her, but you dont need to worry about trusting her, its trusting your boyfriend - if he loves you, he wouldnt cheat. Aside from that, if he says that they are just friends, maybe you should make an effort to get to know her - maybe you and your boyfriend should go out and have a few drinks with her, or lunch or coffee or something - that way, your boyfriend will appreciate the fact you want to get to know one of his friends, and you will get to see how she acts around him (like if shes flirting or whatever) - good luck, hope all goes well!!
2006-06-12 01:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by kjay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not act overly jealous, because you may seem insecure. Just be yourself and know that you are in a secure relationship. Let him know though that you would not do this to him and ask him if he would like that? Then drop it. Just give it time and see if he starts avoiding you or acting weird. Then you can worry. for now, just enjoy the relationship. If the girl talks to you, then let her know that you are with him and that she should find a man of her own. Tell her that you are glad that she is friends with him, but that she doesn't need to be calling him a lot, because that is sending you the wrong message.
2006-06-12 01:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a little concerned. You didnt say if he has ever mentioned her. But if he doesnt want to introduce you to his "friend" then i think it is time for him to go the way of the dodo. A relationship is based on trust and communication. Ask to meet this girl and size her up. You may have nothing to worry about.
2006-06-12 01:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been dating him for a year and you don't know this girl then there may be some need for concern. Sure, he says it's nothing, but you need more than that. Ask to meet her and try to get to know the girl. (Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer!) Once you meet her, you will know.
2006-06-12 01:02:49 · answer #6 · answered by buzzoldier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are only friends your boyfriend won't mind sharing her texts with you. he should also let you talk to her or introduce you both.
maybe she has recently become single and is checking him out, and the poor guy is flattered by her attention. in a firmly established relationship with you he should have mentioned it at the time he got her first call.
he could easily make the wrong decision depending how deep she has her hooks.
2006-06-12 01:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that it bothers you, and perhaps you should see others, and not be an exclusive couple. If he's agreeable to that, than he may have something going on with her. If he feels bad and does not want to split, then he cares for you and not her.
2006-06-12 01:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust your guts. What are they telling you? You only know if you cant trust him. I hope everything works out .
2006-06-12 00:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by Latina women 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thing is if it was something for you NOT to worry about, why are you JUST finding out about it? He's obviously hiding something. WHat else are you going to find out is the real question.
2006-06-12 01:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stupid ex said the same bull to me, and it turns out that he was actually sleeping around with a whole bunch of girls behind my back, but thank god, i didn't lose my virginity to him.
2006-06-12 00:59:54 · answer #11 · answered by lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋