i always give to my parents every month for foods, transport and rent. But i'm married and moved with my husband. I'm seldom at home with my parents. However, i willing to give them.
Ok, now if they are use this money for do other elses which i didn't like. I'm very angry, if they are not enough money also wanted ask from me . i'm know that this money is never turn back. I said that i just can pay for daily fees, other if i have extra money i'll give. i'm advise to them, but they wouldn't listen and said that this is their money. Isn't their money? there all is i give them.
Now, i should give to them anymore? i'm so angry and i'm so sad about my parents's action. If i give that i'll harming them, coz they use the money to do the "stupid thing".
Please tell me how to do.
2006-06-11 17:45:15 · 5 answers · asked by rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you can't really do much about it. I think it's duty of child to care for the olds. it's the same idea that they cared for us when we're young, and i'm sure we did bunch of stuffs they don't like.
you should ask them to save some money just incase of an emergency.
2006-06-11 17:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by HanZ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Giving money to parents is not a responsibility but rather a generous act on the part of their children. Children have no other responsibilities to their parents except to love and respect them. Parents, however, have great responsibilities to their children which do not stop at any time at all.
I would say that you are a very good daughter who has been supporting your parents up to this very moment. And your feelings about how they use the money they receive from you is valid because you already have a family of your own which you also have to provide for, together with your husband.
If your parents have enough money to meet their daily needs even if you don't give them, it would be better to avoid giving them at th emoment. Teach them lessons on how to spend their money wisely. The times that they will not have money to use for their daily needs will be their teacher. Later on, when they sincerely feel that everyone should make use of money wisely, perhaps, the next time you give them if you can afford to do so, they will not be wasting again their money for worthless things.
Actually, your money is not theirs and their, not yours. They might be thinking that because they took good care of you as their child, you have to return what they spent for you. No, that is not the case. But don't be offended for their shortmindedness. They may just need some kind explanations in the future. Just wait for the right timing. Everything will be just fine. I appreciate your being a very good daughter to them. I hope that every woman is like you. Smile!
2006-06-11 18:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one gives, it belongs to the person who received. The receiver may do as they wish. If you no longer want to give, then dont. If you dont feel comfortable with this. Then set some aside for them. And if they ever need it, you will have it to give to them.
2006-06-11 18:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're your parents. How many times did they give you money and you did stupid things with it? How many times did they buy your food and clothing and provide your shelter?
2006-06-11 17:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by mountaingirl_4_jesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUZZO had given such a nice answer (Above)...Very correct...May be tell yourself that you are sharing money with parents than 'giving" them the money.That may comfort you.
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keep smiling.
2006-06-11 23:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by virgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋