My boyfriend is about to enlist in the Air Force and I'm concerned about him cheating on me. I've heard many many military men cheat, especially since they have the opprotunity, with their significant other back home never knowing. I trust my boyfriend very much, although by asking this it does not seem like it. I'd really appreciate honest answers, even from military men who may - have- cheated. Do military men cheat?
2006-06-11 17:35:39 · 23 answers · asked by Katariana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the Navy and Married. i have never cheated, but when we go on deployment, 17 out of 23 guys in my shop cheated. So I guess it depends on your guy. But the odds are not good, sorry. But I am one of the good ones, so we are out there. Good luck!
2006-06-12 20:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bob 3 · 3⤊ 7⤋
All men are not the same, those that have it in them to cheat will find a way if they have one to cheat.
Although obviously presented with more time away there is a far greater chance they will cheat.
I am not the sort of man who would cheat however, there are other reasons it can happen, personal neglet by a partner may lead to cheating too.
I cannot speak for all military men, I personally would not join the military, not for the fear of combat or lack of defending my country, it is just that I have never met many military men that did not change into someone else after the experience (I wouldn't be suited to that enviroment I have no desire to change), there family finding the change difficult to handle, the discipline that they receive often seems to spill over in there return home.I know 1 maybe 2 people who I liked.
I know one man, who was in the army who is a really good guy, but he cheated to be with the wife he is with now. That said so did she, they are both happy and I don't believe either of them would be unfaithful to one another, his wife is however strong enough to be a match for him.
The rest of the military men I have met where just not decent guys, one was an uncle who was a constant womaniser he was negletful and selfish he left his wife and child (10-12 ish), his son is now a 33 year old man who is also a womaniser, negletful and selfish. We don't even speak anymore I can't, bare him,he also had been considering military.
Another example was my mothers ex boyfriend who was abusive, selfish and in my opinion a sociopath, he was controlling he threated her, with a knife to her face, and his dog bit her twice, she had to have her eyelid sewn back together, and still needs her tear duct fixed not mention her face is now scared. Before he met her he has was also a womaniser and has left several families and children behind him.
I could tell you many more, but with few exceptions, men change in the military, maybe not all of them but a lot I have met have.
Your boyfreind will have to be a pretty unique guy, you wouldn't know until he had been in it for a while, but it is hard to be among others you are different to especially military, they will eventually either wear them down or make the person's life hell.
I hope this helps
Armand
2006-06-11 18:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Not all though. Men cheat, no matter who or what occupation they are in. But especially those men who are separated from their significant others. Remember not all men cheat. Do not categorize all men as being unfaithful.
I grew up in a military family, living right now near a military base. So I have heard all kinds of stories about infidelity from military men being stationed overseas. I even quit a relationship from a man, who apparently wanted just a quick fling while he was stationed here. Though, not just that, I also heard stories of very faithful men missing their wives or girlfriends, and nice reunion stories.
All I can tell you it depends on the behavior of your boyfriend. A lot of the times, it could be pressure from other men he works with in the military to cheat. Tell your boyfriend your fears. And talked with him through this.
I understand your fears. Since, you are not with him. Kind of the feeling of losing control over any situation. Also the temptation, of being in a completely different country with no familiar face around. If your boyfriend truly values the relationship, he will put in consideration your thoughts behind this.
2006-06-11 17:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Bri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married to a guy in the Air Force and yes for the most part they do. My now ex would go on ,what was called a TDY, TEMP DUTY, and would come home telling me all about the guys they would cheat on their wives. The military women get a bad name because of the few that throw themselves out there to any and all men, married or not.
2006-06-11 17:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself "Has he ever cheated on you before?" Most of the men in my family are in the military and never cheated and are married with children. My father was in the Navy as well and never cheated on my mother. It is the person. If you have doubt in him now then you will never be able to trust him.
2006-06-11 17:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by KLove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with the military. If a man is going to cheat, he's going to cheat. Men (and women) in the military may have more OPPORTUNITY to cheat (deployments), but if you have love and trust in your relationship...you shouldn't be worried.
2006-06-17 06:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by yogazen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the army for 4 years. When I did a tour of duty in Korea for one year I saw alot of cheating. There was this saying, "When you come here, you put all you morals in a jar and put it in a shelf." I would say about half of the men cheat, BUT the other half are superduper loyal. Those guys really impressed me.
2006-06-11 17:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
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2016-04-22 22:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes all the time in different places with randoms that just put out cause they love the military men
2006-06-11 17:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by snowboarder 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot of men cheat weather they are in the military or not.
he could cheat at home too
2006-06-11 17:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that they have groups of girls taken to these soldies for entertainment purposes.
Others grow so lonely and rape the girls in the given country where they are at.
However, others stay sane and faithful to the one they love. Hopefully thats your case.
So before he leaves, remind him youll be waiting for him. Send him letter etc...before he enlists himself, tell him about your fears and worries.
Best of wishes.
2006-06-11 17:38:41 · answer #11 · answered by geniusflightnurse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋