If your wife/husband is in a bad mood, will your mood change too? It seems my mood will change to whatever mood he is in. I try not to let it, but my outlook totally goes south if he is being hateful to me or anyone as far as that goes. How do I keep this from happening? This sounds kind of petty, but it is a major problem for me....
2006-06-11 16:41:32 · 13 answers · asked by BlueAngel 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Yes, your mood can suffer associative change as your spouse's mood changes. It is very common to have that happen.
Sometimes it's a bad thing, but some people see it as being understanding and an expression of sympathy.
Personally, IMHO, that concept has NO appeal. If I am angry, the last thing I want is the people around me 'getting angry' on my account. It's like throwing gasoline on a fire.
Try letting the ranting and raving go in one ear and out the other.
Everyone is entitled to a bad day. Just say "yes dear" and little else, while you think about something TOTALLY different when he gets like that. Don't get sucked into a regimen of anger and spite.
2006-06-11 16:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It isn't "petty" in fact it's disturbing that he acts "hateful" towards you. What's his problem anyway? If he is always moody, he needs to see a counselor. Is he an anger addict or a control freak or what? That is what you need to find out. If he is ever abusive, leave and don't return.
As far as your own mood, it is difficult to live with someone like that and not feel it. I suggest when he gets in his little tantrum moods, you leave. Don't say a word, just leave and go for an hour or so. Do something you like. When you return and he asks where you were, just say "it's not fun being around you in that mood, so I chose to leave". That makes it pretty clear.
2006-06-11 23:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile at him whatever mood he's in. Sing or hum a happy tune. Focus on what a wonderful day you were having before misery guts showed up. Leave him alone and do your own thing. Go read in the bedroom. Take a long bath. Go outside and pull weeds. Get your exercise clothes on and go for a jog. Don't hang around him. He'll soon get the message. If he has a serious mental problem and is miserable every day tell him to get professional help. You can't help him so don't try.
2006-06-11 23:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it is when he come home in a bad mood just let him no your there for him if he wants to talk why hes in whatever kind of mood hes in then give him some space , hope that works!
2006-06-11 23:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how you can stop it but mine does the same thing. I mean I can be on top of the world and he can come home in a bad mood and the rest of the day is down hill from there. I hate it when that happens.
2006-06-11 23:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it happens here all the time. If he's in a bad mood, we all suffer. Sometimes I just take off and go shopping or something to get me in a better mood. Even taking a walk will help. Just keep telling yourself it's his problem, not yours.
2006-06-11 23:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Terisu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are always effected by the mood of people round them. Especially loved ones; this hurts most when they target YOU. The best way to deal with this, is you have to find a way to get HIM to see that it's `contagious' [his mood] and that if it's going to bring you down, then there's no one left to `lift' the spirits!! And everyone needs someone to help in that way, `cause life's like that!
Good luck with this
2006-06-11 23:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I can't even deal with having a roomate! I am very sensitive to the energy that others project. I wish I could offer real advice but I need it too, otherwise I will surely live alone forever (which is not a bad thing) just wanted to let you know that you are definitely not alone with this issue.
2006-06-11 23:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is proven that a persons mood can affect those around them...It's just really weird that the more negative attitude always prevails over the positive one.
2006-06-11 23:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sort of normal don't you think but you could try to find out what is wrong to cause his mood to change.i would just not say anything and wait till he calms down and ask him very discreetly
2006-06-11 23:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋