Is it weird that im only........?

Question

17 years old and all i want more than anything is to be married and have kids......i just want my OWn life, my OWN family.....i hate depending on others. My true ambition is just having my own family.......ive tried doing the whole teenage thing.......partying, "hanging" w/ friends my age......it just doesnt do it for me....all of my friends are married and have families......they hate it but thats what i want.........am i normal????Anyone else like me?
Advice would be greatly appreicated~
Thanks~

ok everyone........i didnt say that i wanted to have kids now......no im not an idiot.............i was just wondering if it was normal to feel like this at this age


by the ways my friends arent my age and they DO have an education

TY!

Answer 1

I do not think its weird at all. You sound exactly like me at that age. It proves you are a strong loving individual. You have goals which most seventeen year old do not have. Never settle for less than your dreams!

Answer 2

You are only 17. I have felt the same way. I am almost 21 and occasionaly want that. You hae so much to look forward to. I have a friend who is 21 engaged and has a child. She is happy but her life is forever changed. If I would have started a family at 17 more than likely I wouldn't be about to graduated from college. I still have financial support from my father and totally hate is because people tend to throw it in your face when the help you. It your friends hate it, they hate it for a reason. It may seems like it is great but it is not all that. You should baby sit your friend's kids for a weekend and then answer your question. You won't be able to get up an leave when you want. You hate depending on others what do you think marriage is about. You are not living a sitcom this is real life. This is a normal part of life everyone wants a family but wait until your time. Don't rush it be paticent and good will come

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married and have kids. Many women want to be a wife and mother and thats perfectly fine. I had always wanted to be a wife and mom and I'm very happy being a wife and currently hoping to be blessed as a mom sometime soon. Not all people are unhappy being married - but do know that marriage isn't easy and it is a lot of work - and so is raising kids.
Just make sure you find the right guy to settle down with and don't rush into anything. Take things slow and find Mr. Right and in the meantime continue with your life - going to school/getting a job/etc. Best of luck with everything, feel free to message me if you ever wanna chat; simplyenigmatic25

Answer 4

You're completely normal. It's not that wierd. I really like that you used the words "own life" and said that you hate depending on your family. This means that you're thinking ahead and that you realize that before you can start a family of your own, you will need a degree, a stable job with good pay and medical insurance, a house of your own, and a husband who can help you with everything so you're not going at it alone. The first step to getting all these things is making yourself independent - that means getting a degree in something that will be able to support you and your kids, and pay for your bills and a house. Finish high school, get an education and a good job so that you can afford to have all your dreams come true without ever relying on anybody or having to struggle. Good luck.

Answer 5

Of course you're normal! You sound like a very mature 17 year old who has goals for her life, and there is nothing wrong with that. But just remember that because all your friends are married, doesn't mean that is the thing to do... And also keep in mind that once you are married with kids, you do lose a lot of opportunities, and have to make tons of sacrifices. I'm not saying it can't be done, but it's not an easy life either, take it from me, I am married w/three kids. You are still young, and won't get the opportunity again to do those "kid things" like you used to once you have kids, because they will have to come first. So just keep that in mind when you are making your decisions.

Answer 6

you will still be depending on people, your parents when you don't have enough money for food,rent, or since you want a family- diapers, you must have a really good job that you don't have to get a little help at 17. you will also have to depend on your spouse if you are the female and plan on raising your family by being the stay-at-home parent. 25 is a good time to start a family because that is something you don't want to rush into--find the right person and lets keep the divorce rate down. your still pretty young and wont make the best decisions in life, you shouldn't drag someone else into it,even though your parents will always be there for their grand kids( which you would be depending on them when things get too tough----and they will at 17,18,19 yr old with a baby to support.

Answer 7

You're very normal to want those things, but a bit young yet to have them. Sounds more to me like you need a change. Have you graduated from school yet? Have a job? Is it possible to move out and get an apartment, maybe with a room mate to share expenses, live a little? Please don't rush out and get married and start a family just because you can. Live a little first and be sure that's what you want. Maybe take a class or two at the local community college, meet new people, gain new interests. My advice is to wait until you're at least 20 to settle down and start a family.

Answer 8

Well, I'm not sure this will help, but I'm 19 and I've always wanted a family more than anything. I really didn't care if I made a career or anything else like that. But, something pushed me to college anyway and it is there that I met the greatest friends on earth. Marriage and a family are still my greatest goal, but finding out who I am became so very important. I found out so much about myself and my God and it's created a confidence in me as well as a thirst to find my purpose in life. I still don't party, and I still catch myself daydreaming about marriage. But I know that for right now, my purpose is to do what I am doing. There is a man picked out for me as well as you and when the time comes it will come. As for wanting to have your own life, talk to people who had kids young and see what they say. Your life is not just yours when you have responsibilities that come with a family. Explore life before you settle on something that hormones are telling you to. Trust me, it's worth it.

Answer 9

It is good that you want to be independent, yet marriage, family of your own at this age is too early things. Experience life as it comes or you shape for yourself. Make your career - to start with education with specialization, good job/profession, selfless contribution to the society you live in.....

You will get ample time to settle with married life, family etc. What is the hurry? Take some more time on these issues - mature your thinking and approach to life, pursue your hobbies, you won't get these years again in your life.

You may see pasture green on the other side ( I don't deny that greenery also) but let the life and other important aspects ripe before you think of harvesting.

Answer 10

You are experiencing what is known as harmonal hyperdrive---and you are in serious jepardy of making some extremely big mistakes that will take some major chunks out of your life and your options if you do not get a grip and take control of these urges...I am hearing--kids--and my friends--here---and am not hearing anything about love---security --stability for the kids or long range plans for happiness here---and take this from an old salt---once you've had the first kid---this "independence" thing you're after is history-----slow down--talk these things over with some one you trust---and I don't mean one of these "friends" of your's---they're going to spin it to sound like the best thing ever--Misery loves company-- take your time--at seventeen you can damn well afford it---and know that it will all be just fine--you're just starting out--don't rush it--there's alot of chapters to your novel between here and that last page--don't be in such a rush to see who wins all the chips in the end-----------Peace

Answer 11

If you hate depending on others, how do you think you'll like having a whole houseful of people depending on you? It sounds like you want a husband and family as a means of getting away from certain things that you know you don't like. Marriage shouldn't be an escape route. Perhaps you only want something that's far different from what you have now. Explore your options, thoroughly and carefully. Good luck!