okay so i really wanna start dating more
but i have a huge problem talking to girls,like i get shy,i can carry a conversation but i suck at starting them
and i get kinda nervous because i don't wanan say anything stupid
any suggestions on how to change this?
2006-06-11 16:28:08 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll hear people say "Just be yourself, don't get nervous." The truth of the matter is that there are alot of women who can relate to you if you just let a woman know how you feel.
Tell the girl you're the shy type.. that you get nervous talking to girls. Think about it this way.. most girls worry alot over their appearances and their image. This means it's ok to worry!
2006-06-11 16:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dark_Lady_Kizanth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow it to get to u so much that u say something ( as u put it stupid) the girls are not gonna bit u and all girls want is for the guy to be nice, kind, funny and respectful. If Ur the kind of guy who's a jerk then she's not gonna be around u. U should just relax and be itself always make it to where they're glad to see u and ask about u when Ur not around. Don't over do it when Ur being nice or kind( I mean don't try to win them over by trying to buy they're friendship) but just be nice & intresting.
Asking a girl out can be a little scary for some but if ever u do and she says no don't take it too personal and not for long because this is a big world and there are plenty of other girls out there to ak out and many will say yes
2006-06-11 23:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea... Practice going up to every girl that you find attractive ...REALLY attractive... and ask her a question.
"Um, do you know what time it is? "
" My sister's birthday is coming up and I have no idea what she might like in your store.. Could you help me out?"
Be real... use real life as your helper to prompt you into coming up with a good opener.
If you have a toastmasters club near you you might decide to try that out.
Remember that getting started is the hardest part so the more you practice your START the easier it will be for you.
Be content with the knowledge that absolutely EVERYONE says STUPID stuff. :) Even the gorgeous girls you will approach.
Most guys will chicken out and not approach the beauty in your midst. The odds are in your favor if you can approach her. Most people settle for less because they think they are only worth less.
If you are going to dream... dream big... If you are going to fish... Go for the big fish. :) I am sure you will surprise yourself! Good luck!
2006-06-11 23:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem...but with guys. What I do is take a friend who doesn't have a problem with it and can keep a conversation going with you when you talk to girls...it makes you feel better and more confident.
2006-06-11 23:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think shy guys are totally cute, actually! I think that you should talk to a girl, and if you stumble over your words, she'll probably think it's totally cute :)
Or, you could just wait for your meant-to-be to come along... That way, when she comes, you won't have to worry about the whole ex-girlfriend jealousy factor, cauz you won't have any exes :P So it could be a good thing, to be tooo shy to talk to girls! :D
2006-06-11 23:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by heatherscash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hi, my name is ______. Compliment a piece of clothing or jewelry (not shoes, you'll sound gay). Every girl likes to hear that guys appreciate her sense of style! Then, wherever you are, ask her opinion of something that is going on around you. Like if you are at a club, ask her what she thinks of the band or something like that. It is always best to start out talking to girls like you would a friend...we don't want to feel like a piece of meat!
2006-06-11 23:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by BB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just start conversations with them like you do other people. How are you? What are you up to? I haven't seen you around here before - where are you from? Look at this (mag, ad, car, whatever) do you think that is cool? Just treat them like people.
2006-06-11 23:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out what she likes. Or just be polite, say hello, ask her how her day is going and take it from there. Be yourself and try not to get too nervous.
2006-06-11 23:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by wantacerveza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. I'm sure you can start a conversation, just go for it. Even if something does go wrong, you still have many chances in life. C'mon you can do this, just be confident.
2006-06-11 23:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to laugh at your own fumbles. We all get nervous and trip over our words or say something "stupid" now and then. Laugh it off and don't let it get you down and it will show women confidence!
Good Luck!
2006-06-11 23:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋