I pay utilities and everything else. I give him $100 a month to pay for the trailer. I absolutely adore this boy. He came through when I really needed him. He seems to feel since he bought the place where I live, he can treat me any way he wants to. God forgive me, I feel like I'm being blackmailed. I don't know what to do. I know he loves me, I think he's just overwhelmed with power. Any suggestions?
2006-06-11 15:33:48 · 18 answers · asked by olelady55 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him how you feel. "Dear, I sincerely appreciate all that you've done for me, but I feel as though you have been treating me badly lately. I don't think I've done anything to deserve it, but if I have, please tell me so that I can fix it."
2006-06-11 15:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay--He bought the trailer---but YOU are paying him 100 bucks a month "to pay for the trailer"--ok--so he's got you coming and going--huh ?-- and DUH you ARE being blackmailed--you're paying for the trailer and expenses and he gets to walk around as if you owe him something--NOT--better change something here--you've got a lot more on the way if this is the standing platform of the relationship--My suggestion-- take a month to weigh options--when you hit on the right thing--give him a two week notice like a good little tenant and get the hell out-------------
2006-06-11 15:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and be honest with him. Let him know what a great son he is and how much you appreciate the fact that he bought you the trailer. Tell him that you don't feel as though it's your home because of the way he acts. Let him know that you need your space and your run of the house.
2006-06-11 15:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have bought you a travel trailer, but the kid is a jerk if he can't treat his parents properly, get it? Is HE living in your home now? Reversal of power usually brings out the defects in "upbringing of children."
Treating you badly is inexcuseable.
Good luck with that one. I know ONE mother that would whup your boy's sorry A** for treating HIS mother that way.
2006-06-11 15:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him who has benefited from him buying the trailer the most, you or him making you feel the way you do. Remind him you are still his mother, you can still think on your own. He should not feel like he is above you in any means. You must tell him the manner in which he is treating you is not acceptable and you will not tolerate it. Express to him he is the one who should feel bad for you and should help you by supporting your feelings, not by degrading you making you feel worse..
2006-06-11 15:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move your trailer somewhere else. Tell him that you will pay your $100 a month.
2006-06-11 15:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by 2¢ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand your situation, but I'd thank him, and then tell him you will be moving it to a park and won't be paying the bills at 'his' place since you will need to pay them at your new place. You can word it so he isn't able to get upset, like you need a new social group your own age and you understand that he needs his own space.
2006-06-11 15:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but it's not worth it. I would move out even if I had to rent a room in someone's house. Unless you can talk this out with him, you are going to be miserable living there. He hasn't grown up yet.
2006-06-11 15:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy food for two weeks and don't cook
All men leave after two weeks
And what makes you think He is in charge?
and Blackmailed for what?
2006-06-11 15:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you can come up with your own home now.
Thank him for coming through when you needed him, tell him you're ok, and you're going to move into a real place again.
2006-06-11 15:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by gcbtrading 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and really talk with him let him know what is going on. Let him know that power isnt everything.
2006-06-11 15:37:43 · answer #11 · answered by ~Whitney~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋