I have raised my dauther since birth now the courts steped in and took her from me and gave her to her mom?

Question

She left me and the baby at the hospital and went on a party for a year and half now whereis my rights

i am the childs bilogical dad and i don't drink are use drugs. they said my job is the big influence in there decision but i am a fire fighter i like helping other people if that wroung

I did put charges for leaving her and never were cared out because they said it was a year and a half ago and she went got help with her alchol problem that is just a coupe out

Answer 1

Get a lawyer.The best interests of the child should come first.If your daughter has known you as the primary caregiver then it would be very difficult emotionally for her to be taken from you.The security and love she has known have been removed from her life. If the mother truly abandoned her daughter at birth to pursue a selfish lifestyle what guarantee is there that she won't get tired of being a parent and abandon her againwhen her interest in being a mother fades.Many single parent households have to use sitters and extended family to raise their child and these parents are not deemed to be unfit.Most parents do whatever is necessary to hold there family together.Good luck to you and your daughter.

Answer 2

That is just so dreadful and unfair! I can't even begin to imagine the pain and heart break you must be feeling. In most people's opinion you are obviously the best and most deserving parent to raise this child, so why is it that the court so often gets it so wrong? Usually i say a child belongs with their mother, but in your case this certainly isn't my opinion. You're the one that's been there to hold, nurture, feed, clothe, love and give up everything to live for looking after this child, while the mother split to live it up in a life which she obviously felt was more important than her daughter. You were there and gave your daughter all the love and everything else she needed, and it makes me so mad that her mother and some judge took her away from you! I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
All i can say is to keep fighting this- never give up. Go back to court and make sure everything comes out. Good luck, and i really hope that justice prevails, and that you and your daughter are together again soon.

Answer 3

I feel so bad that this has happened. I know that there had to have been a reason for them to take her from you. Not that it is right in any way, but the mother is realizing her mistakes. You should have that child if you are a good father to her. The mother had no right doing what she did unless she had a good reason for the courts. Call a better lawyer is my suggestion and find out what they have to say.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, I went through something similar with my son. His father lived 8 blocks away, but was completely absent the first 11 years of my son’s life. Even though “Dad” had a long record of DWI and drug abuse, the judge gave him custody. She did tell him that he “would not use illegal drugs or abuse alcohol.” Give me a break. I fought it for 2 years, and with legal help, I was able to get custody back. My son is 20 now, and we have a great relationship!

I wish you the best. Don’t give up!!!

Answer 5

well if you are the father, im sure there is something you can do, i do appologize, how did you come about the child. are you a biological parent, or a grandparent, a friend, i dont understand your question, basicly how it works, the birth mother unless proven unfit in a court of law has more rights to stand on, and the court is more than likely going to side on behalf of the mother, because she is the one that gave birth to the child.

Answer 6

That's terrible. The birth mother seems to have all the rights, no matter what. They took a child away from a mother who killed another child in our area. They returned the child to her and she killed this one, too. I don't understand the justice system's attitude toward adoption at all. Maybe she will change her mind and you can get her back. If so, file adoption papers immediately.

Answer 7

First off, I'd like to give you my apologies. It seems that things like this happen all the time, and we never think about how it must feel to who the child was taken away from.

Second, sadly, I don't know much about your rights regarding this. You can always appeal to the courts for custody of the child. But, beyond that, I don't know much.

Answer 8

Was it a legal adoption? If the whole process was official then it should be illegal for them to take your daughter away. If the whole affair didn't involve the law and wasn't official then I'd say hire an excellent lawyer and pay him through the nose.

Answer 9

i believe the justice of the court, if u lost the case, there must be greater mistakes that u've made to outweigh the efforts of raising ur daughter. it's not worth paying any more to the lawyers. live with the court decision,

Answer 10

u'r the father so u should have equal rights if u paid for health and basically for her entire life and the mother wasn't there at all then u should have u'r daughter. i would go to u'r attorney and sue the mother so u can get u'r daughter back. and while u'r at it tell the court why u raised her and what the mother was doing while u were raising her. also explain what u did for u'r daughter and if u can try to get full custody