She says that when we have sex that is the only way that she has an orgasm so she assumed that would be the only way I would reach an orgasm. We were talking and she found out that I masterbathe and got mad when I told her the truth. She is saying that we will never have sex again. Am I wrong for pleasing myself? We do not live together so I thought it was ok. Am I wrong and what should I do to fix my problem
2006-06-11 15:25:22 · 11 answers · asked by cain_cash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you may find that she is not truly upset by your masterbating, but maybe by the fact that she doesn't feel stisfied. I know that when my man has gone a few days without getting me off I feel like I'm not good enough for him and I feel rejected. If I ever thought that he was masterbating instead of having sex with me I would be very upset as well. I think I may be your opportunity to see her side... It is that she feels rejected, not as good as your hand and that you must not love her. This may have been one instance where honesty didn't work in your favor, but you were right to try. Just act from here on as if you don't do it anymore and give her some everyday you can. If you are doing it instead of giving it to her she is right to feel the way she does. Since I'm sure that is not the case, I urge you to show your girl more lovin. Best wishes
2006-06-11 15:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend is misinformed about what masturbation is and how normal it is considered. Masturbation is an entirely healthy, commonplace phenomenon, especially for men, but for many women as well. Masturbating is not cheating.
However, if you value your relationship with her, you should discuss this problem with her more and try to find out what's really bothering her. Is it the fact that you achieve orgasm when she's not present? Or is it that she thinks you're masturbating to photos or videos of other women? Or perhaps she's afraid you think about other girls you know when you do? It's likely that this is more of a jealousy issue over the women she suspects you think of when you masturbate than an issue about masturbation itself.
Many women have a problem with the thought of their boyfriend or husband thinking about other women when they get off. This is the reason they dislike it when their boyfriend/husband subscribes to porn magazines. Women are afraid that if you look at photo-shopped images of cosmetically-enhanced women all the time, that you'll get to the point that you find real women less attractive. And in that respect, they may have a point. So if that's the real issue, then what you need to do is reassure your girlfriend that you find her extremely attractive and that no mere image could ever replace her. And hopefully you can truthfully tell her that the only person you think of when you masturbate is her.
If you reassure her that you're not fantasizing about her best friend when you masturbate and she still has problems with your masturbating, then you have a choice to make: You can either stop masturbating altogether, or you can continue and lie about it. I personally think it's ridiculous to expect anyone, male or female, to give up masturbation because of their partner's low self-esteem and jealousy. But if you think she's worth it, you can always give it a shot. Or you could just say you'll give it up but continue anyway, but do you really want to be involved with someone whom you have to lie to about things that shouldn't even be an issue?
I personally would try to reason this out with her and would do my best to show her extra attention, compliment her frequently, and reassure her about your loyalty to her as much as possible but would continue masturbating. And if she still didn't like it, I'd tell her to move on. It's not worth investing that much time and energy on a crazy chick.
2006-06-11 22:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by magistra_linguae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we chose to do to our own body is simply depended on us and if it is effecting someone then we should rather stop or show that person in a very pleasing way that nothing has changed and we are still the same person as before. In my opinion a woman should be glade to have her guy do this because it helps to cut the urges of him finding a another woman to do it for him.
2006-06-11 22:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by In Love With Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really u arent wrong.... but still i think that u shoiuld respect her feelings. otherwise u mite jsut end up alone. I mean if u just feel like u have to do it in privacy and dont let her find out but personaly i would say stop cuz i woukd rather keep my girl. and as far as sex would u rater have a play date with ur self or THE REAL THING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol hope this helps
2006-06-11 22:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ryanmontel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with the crazy beeatch and then spend a month masterbating three times a day. Then find a cool girl who enjoys the same thing and wont judge you.
2006-06-11 22:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine. If she wants you to do only her, she'll need to be ready for you every day. If she can't do that, she'll need to give you more hand jobs.
Or she can get comfortable with the fact that men and women are different.
2006-06-11 22:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong, let her know that at least the only one you are pleasuring in her absence is yourself. It could be another girl.
2006-06-11 22:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by SweetSatinDoll47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing with your self and start hittin the skins.
2006-06-11 22:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by vinrock2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does it I have seen it
2006-06-11 22:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are fine, she is insecure. tell her to get over it.
2006-06-11 22:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋