I was adopted as a baby and met my other family at age 11. Please give me feed back. serious answers only
2006-06-11 15:03:49 · 14 answers · asked by kitty45 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you for all the answers, I wish things could change, just don't think they will. My adopted parents are dead, so it's me and my teenage boys and 1 grown son
2006-06-11 15:18:03 · update #1
Your true family are the ones who raised you, took care of you, and love you. Your adopted family is your family.
Not to say these people are nothing to you but it's only genes, just like any other people you don't know them and they don't know you so you have to get to know them and them you, that takes time and understanding.
2006-06-11 15:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would probably feel really sad. In your situation you should try to establish a relationship by starting slow. Remember thier birthdays by sending them cards on thier special day, (do the same for neices and nephews). Plan an event at least two months in advance and invite all of your siblings. Be patient, don't be pushy it makes people feel uncomfortable. Only embrace those who want to embrace you, it is unlikely you will win all of your siblings over in a short time. Good luck
2006-06-11 15:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by tatajama3@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them you will learn alot it important to feel connected good listen to your heart make that step embrace them there your flesh and blood family important.... the past happen go forward start fresh get to know them ... you have feelings and piece of your life is missing so you might be helping them to feel more and appreciated.... you might learn something life is here now what you want from your own heart to feel love understanding... your adopted parents are also very lucky to you should be lucky to have parents adopted or have the heart to feel gratitude
2006-06-11 15:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is significant to as why there is a lapse in family trend of brothers and sisters, but I would approach this situation lightly and least to let them know you're here and love them as well.
2006-06-11 15:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the eldest originally of nine.... and I am the one who makes the phone calls...we are all grown..all have gone their separate ways. I did at one time view it as sad, however, now.....I let it be. I cannot exclaim that I do not feel it though.
Thanks ~
2006-06-12 20:34:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life just gets in the way. Work, kids, jobs, etc... If it's that important to you, then call them, talk to them, let them know that you would like to get together. Let them know they are welcome in your home. I myself will not visit in-laws without an invitation because I don't want to impose. Maybe they feel unsure about whether you want to see them.
2006-06-11 15:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the youngest of six. i don't speak to any of my family members unless i intitate it. Don't worry if you feel guity then maybe you should take that extra step to talk to them. They just probably think they have really not much to say and they just don't bother to call.
2006-06-11 15:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 4 sisters and 4 brothers i barely get to see them i am 22 years old and i dont get to see all my neices so i know how it feels we live far apart and i dont like not getting to visit or talk barely ever so i know how you feel it hurts alot not to see all ur family..
2006-06-11 15:06:39 · answer #8 · answered by Beth m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try talking on the phone, or inviting them for tea, have a reunion...
2006-06-11 15:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really be hurt, but if they didnt kno9w about me then thats a different situation
2006-06-11 15:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by ladylibra247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋