my son is 9 and he is very overweight. he said someone made a nasty sexual comment about him at school p.e.?

Question

he will not tell me. i know it hurt him but he is embarrassed to tell me. what do you think they said?

Answer 1

i dont think you should worry to much about what they said at this point cause the damage is done.But maybe try to fix the problem at hand. Make sure its not medical then try to get him into some sort of sport. (not through school if you can avoid it) martail arts are a great form of excercise. And of course reasure him you love him regardless of what others say. Ask him how he feels and if he would like to make an effort. If you can try to do a program with him. (if you can medically(and im not implying you are over weight))

Answer 2

It doesn't matter what was said. What is important is how your son reacts to any insults. First, if he's so overweight, is he on a path to lose weight? Second, if he is made fun of does he know a positive way to walk away from the situation? There needs to be self empowerment for the child not a witch hunt for the mean kids. Use the comment as a means to talk about how he's going to change and how you, as his parent, will help him do it. Talk to a doctor about developing a new healthy lifestlye for your son.

Being healthy and losing that weight will be the best "revenge" for the comment. Don't worry about the specifics of the comment because that is not the core issue. Skinny kids get made fun of your being too skinny! The goal is to make your child stronger both mentally and physically so when the next evil comment comes, he'll be able to brush it off. I've included a link in my sources that might help you.

Answer 3

Well, I don't want to make any guesses. Children can be nasty at this age. They shouldn't have said anything at all. If you want to know what happened, ask him to write it on a piece of paper and lay it on the kitchen table. Tell him you won't open it until he's back in his room. Then read, if it works. I think maybe he just doesn't want to look at you when he says it because he's embarrassed. Maybe even keep him home the next day after reading what he wrote and have a son and mom or dad day. Talk to him about the note and go and do some fun things together and tell him whats good about him and how you prefer he deal with it next time someone says something to him. Some parents prefer that the children stick up for themselve and say something back ...others tell their children to ignore the bully. However if you tell him to ignore the bully make sure to let him know that he doesn't have to and shouldn't keep everything inside and that he can come home and talk to you about it.

Then make an appt. with pediatrician and see what do next with the weight gain. Also, if he's alway being teased like this, maybe you might want to take him to a pedi. psychologist or counselor.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

There are tons of nasty comments kids can make about an overweight child. If your child is very overweight odds are he is dealing with more ridicule than you know about and he is embarrassed to tell you.
Since it's summertime why not work to help your child lose some weight. Watch what he eats this summer and teach him to eat reasonable portions and healthy foods. I'm not saying to cut out junk food all together - but do cut down. Do activities with him or maybe send him to a day camp. The only way the kids are going to stop teasing him is if he slims down. Try and help him to slim down - not just to stop the teasing, but more importantly for his health.

Answer 5

I was overweight at a young age. Children say things to hurt others just to make them apart of the crowd or "popular". You should not be asking what someone think they said? You should be finding a way to make your son feel better. If he does not want to tell you what comment was spoken. Work on something to prevent this from happening again. Have you spoke with the PE teacher, or his class teacher? He is 9 years old, you are the Parent, who do you think knows more? Not attacking you, but seriously this is your child. Look at yourself, then look at him and then look at yourself again.

Answer 6

Please take him to the pediatrician and get a diet for him. The teasing and humiliation will only get worse as he becomes a teen.
You have to help and support him. No junk food, cookies, candy, or sodas in the house. Stock the fridge with celery sticks, carrot sticks, salad vegetables and fresh fruit. Buy lean chicken breasts and fresh fish to fix on the grill or in the broiler. He needs to exercise. Does he have a bike? Get him away from the TV and the computer. Go out and run with him.

He won't be able to do it without your help. If you and he want the teasing to stop, you can make it happen.

Answer 7

Who cares what they said? This is the perfect opportunity to 1. talk to your son about controlling his weight issues before they become health issues and 2. help him to understand that some people are pathetic losers with no self-esteem who haven't been taught any better than to make fun of others and 3. that said losers opinions DO NOT MATTER.

Answer 8

just put him and your whole family on a diet and exersize plan that way he wont get made fun of his whole life, what whoever said already hurt his feelings so it really doesnt matter what was said because that was in the past and bringing it back up will just upset him all over again it will embarrass him even if it is brought up because they want to apologize move on and help out your son get him to a normal wieght

Answer 9

Tell the school counslor. Make sure that he is comfortable in school. A child should also fell safe and secure at school. Also if he opens up to the counselor, he most likely will open up to you. It is hard for a child to tell his parent that someone is picking on him. It may take time but it is better than having more trouble come his way.

Answer 10

you should help your son out don't just let any1 tell him something like that! and if there's some way... you should help him out by losing some weight what! its the best 4 your son and if he cant control it then make him feel like he don't care cause other kids at age 9 are immature so...u know whats right.