How can I keep my virginity?

Question

I'm a 17 year old male and I am absolutely convinced I want to save sex for marriage. I know however, that lots of people have sex on the spur of the moment, so can I have some advice on how I can save myself for marriage?

Answer 1

Most of the temptations will come when you are alone with a girl. If you are serious, then seek out group settings, and avoid private one-on-one situations where you might give in. If there are always people around, you won't go there.

When my kids were dating, we had a rule: No one goes into a room and closes the door with their date. Indeed, no one was to even go into a bedroom with a date, door open or not. I explained to my kids that I wanted them to always be "afraid" that at any moment Dad might walk around the corner and catch them in an inappropriate position on the couch, bed, etc. Surprisingly, my kids understood exactly what I meant and even self-imposed these same rules on themselves when outside of our home.

Many counselors use similar rules to limit temptation and acusations of sexual misconduct. A guy will not counsel a gal, but will try to find another gal counselor because the conversations can become very personal and emotional. If it must be done, another person will be invited into the room so that there is always a threesome minimum.

So my advice is to not try to stand your ground alone. Avoid letting yourself be in situations where you are alone with someone you are attracted to. Peer presence is a powerful deterrent.

Answer 2

Congratulations! There are many young men out there your age who have already lost their virginity. I applaud you. First, make sure you spend your time with young ladies who share your values. Second, find someone you can talk to when the going gets tough. I know that as a male, your needs are physical more than emotional. Find another way to get rid of that physical energy. Actually, you are not saving sex for marriage. You are saving yourself from making one of life's biggest mistakes if you engage in pre-marital sex. When you wait for the one you love, and she waits for you, it will be well worth it!

Answer 3

First step, set up some boundaries. If there's something that, when you and your significant other are doing that (i.e: kissing, touching, etc.), makes you want to have sex... try to abstain from it. The second thing you want to do is keep yourself out of situations where it will be very easy to want to do it. So for example... don't let yourself be alone with your significant other at either your house or theirs. And last (but definitely not least) talk to your significant other. Let them know that you want to save yourself for marriage. If they can't understand that and won't try to help with that, then they're not worth your time, and I will advise you to remove yourself from that relationship a.s.a.p. That's the most I can really advise.

Answer 4

Why would you want to do that, sounds like somebody has been feeding you some misinformation and religious brainwashing.

You should try to get some sexual experience befors marriage so that you can satisfy your wife properly and not be a useless lover on your honeymoon...just make sure any sex you have is safe and always use a condom.

Answer 5

I'm in the same boat.
Personally, I avoid that kind of relationship. Too young for marriage, so there's really no point.
But if you're dating, don't let it get too far. You'll know when that is.
A tip that I got out of "The Talk: Mother's Edition" is that kisses should last no longer than three seconds.
Hope that helps.

Answer 6

Go out with a girl that also wants to save her virginity until marriage.

Answer 7

Good for you! It's so nice to see a guy who wants to keep his virginity.

1. Avoid drugs and alcohol.
2. Keep your clothes on and insist she does too.
3. Tell her (on your first date) your intentions so later on she does not feel misled.
4. If you kiss, you might want to avoid making out. It can lead to...things.
5. Avoid touching her anywhere a bikini would cover, it will make you want more!

Someday a woman is going to love you all the more because you saved yourself for her. Well done. If only all guys were like you.

Answer 8

Good for you! That would be quite an accomplishment in today's world. First, I would suggest keeping yourself from situations where you would be too tempted to loose control. For example, if on a date, don't be somewhere private, dark, and alone with your date. Sometimes the temptation is overwhelming. And secondly, try to come up with a "plan" in case you DO get yourself in a situation, that you can try to reason with yourself and remember that you are saving yourself and how important that is to you. Good luck to you!

Answer 9

By all the reports, the best way to maintain your viginity till your marriage is learn the word "NO". If you stick to your gun's you might get rattled and pressured by your "peers" but you must just simply say no...if it gets to uncomfortable, walk away. A true friend will understand your commitment...those who ignore your "choice"...must be examined on the friendship scale.

Finally, use prayer....often!

God will, if you are trully commited give you the strength to endure no matter what befalls you.

Keep the faith...you are in my prayers.

+David

Answer 10

if a girl opens her legs, run. just kidding. sry.

just make it know to your partner that you are saving yourself and hopefully they will understand and refrain from putting you in the position where you would make that spur of the moment decision.

good luck.. i admire that decision. i also have chosen to remain a virgin til marriage.. keep on keeping on