Marriage seems abnmormal to me. Can a person really love another so strong that they want to be together until death do them part. Why? Does God create somebody for everybody? I don't get it...maybe I'm selfish.
2006-06-11 14:21:58 · 9 answers · asked by tilaboo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't say that in fact there is that lifetime mate for everyone but my parents were married for 57 years until my fathers death in 2004. Neither one was ever with another person physically during their entire lives. Extraordinary? I think so but then they worked damn hard at it too. I haven't and maybe that's the whole difference.
2006-06-11 14:25:46 · answer #1 · answered by fun_guy_otown 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is meant to be in a marriage relationship; some are well off without marriage and are able to live very fulfilling lives. Marriage doesn't necessarily mean completion of oneself. One can be giving, caring, and friendly, and be single. On the other hand for those who choose to marry, it can be the most wonderful thing if done at the right time and with the right person. It is possible to desire and eternity with your mate if it is the right person. It is possible to have a love so strong that you don't even want to be separated after death because you have mutual enjoyment of each others company and can't imagine being without them. Everyone have to find their own path in this life. Each person has to know what is best for them.
2006-06-11 21:33:18 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive that two people can love one another enough and NOT be married but have the same commitment for life! Marriage was only brought about after Christ .... before then it was perfectly natural to have several lovers (its natures way of making sure that the species lives on) - if a person(s) wanted a monogomous relationship that was fine as well ... nowadays if a companion, lover, life partner dies and the two never married its a bad drawn out legal battle over rights of property ect. make sure a will is drawn and filed in court IN CASE a death occurs there can be no mistake where the loved ones belongings go.
you are not selfish ... there are more of us out there than you think ;-)
2006-06-11 21:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by wanderinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After almost 7 1/2 years of marriage(#8 comes on Dec 19) I am more happy with my wife than ever before. Marriage is certainly not for everybody & it is something that should not be taken very lightly. The divorce rate is high, even among bible believing Christians. It takes lots of work, & most especially communication. Hope this helps & God bless!
2006-06-11 21:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Phil P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is completly natural and is ultimatly based off of never ending love. The reason that the divorce rate is now above 50%, is because people are so worried about getting their families started and getting married, that they don't even love the person. Obviously relationships like that won't work out, fighting will overpower them. I'm not a very religious person, but i think that god plays a big role in the fate of finding the person you should marry.
2006-06-11 21:27:20 · answer #5 · answered by tmanix14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, God created the institute of marriage - one man to one
woman. (Adam and Eve) To be together to have children and
to be a help partner to their mates.
God is all for marriage. He created it so man would not be alone.
read the Bible - it's all in there. Yes 2 people can love each
other to become one. I've done it.
You work together like a well oiled machine. You are a helpmate.
Read 1 Corinthians in the Bible - good luck!
2006-06-11 21:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about it is unnatural to you? Part of the entire dating scene is to find someone to connect to physically and emotionally and if you find that person then why not stop the ratrace of dating. It can truly be done. One person - I don't know! I've been married twice. My first husband is one of my best friends and my second husband is sure to be my last. We have two beautiful children and despite the reality of life and its ups and downs, there is no one else I want to be with.
2006-06-11 21:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by Attysholl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited for what seemed like a lifetime to finally get married at 50 yrs old. I think after awhile it felt natural to be single for so long, but I think that its not so much a matter of whether it is a natural or unnatural thing so much as just something you choose to want for yourself. I believe because of who we are as human beings that it is natural to want relationship as a part of the totality of what it means to be human. Even apart from marriage I have always desired to relate with my fellow being[s]. There is a depth to shared human experience that I have discovered in marriage that I never experienced outside of the bonds of matrimony simply because their is a sense of cohesiveness that forces one to work through the difficulties that may occur between two people because it costs something to fail, whereas the lack of legal or spiritual vows binding in law gives one an out that if it gets too sticky you can bail out with less repercussions. The rewards far out weigh the lack of rewards because my marriage partner is just as committed to defining for ourselves what it means to be two as one as am I. There are difficulties but the human condition is one of irreconcilable differences and it is through the act of marriage that we believe that what seems to be impossible is made possible through the behavior of one-anothering, that is playing out the action love dictates and watching in amazement as feelings of love flow out of the demonstration of love towards each other.
As far as whether God creates someone for everyone, I can't say specifically. All I know is that God created us all with a free will and gifts us with the ability to choose love.
2006-06-11 21:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and yes! Why do think marriage has existed all these thousands of years lol.
2006-06-11 21:36:18 · answer #9 · answered by genuine♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋